This letter is for the girl who never had a boyfriend. Whether you're in middle school, high school or college, I am here to remind you that your time will come. Some people just take longer to find someone who is special to them. Other people are particular to who they want in their life. Just because your friends have been in a relationship before you doesn't necessarily mean there is not hope for you.
I have heard so many women in my life talk about how they have never had a boyfriend. Coming from experience, it is not all cracked up as it seems to be. Being in a relationship comes with great responsibility. It comes with a price that many people don't realize what is in store for them until they encounter their first relationship.
Having a boyfriend is more than just a title. It's about dedicating yourself to someone and cherishing everything about them. It means spending time with them, bringing them around your friends, going out on dates, essentially dedicating your soul to someone you're supposed to love and care for.
In theory this all sounds great, yet everything comes with a price. You may have someone special in your life, but that comes with fights and arguments. Between the both of you there will be arguments that you're going to have to come to a comprise when sometimes it seems ridiculous. This may mean that not everything is going to go your way.
With this being said, a relationship is an emotional roller coaster. It is a constant battle with love and hate. Every relationship is different ,yet they're similar in many ways. One minute you're supposed to be caring about them and then the next they can do something that tears your heart out. Its amazing how a relationship works. Being young is the best part of it because it allows you to discover who you are and what you want out of a person.
That leads me to my next point: Not every relationship will last. Some relationships are worth fighting for and others aren't. It just depends on the situation. Being in a relationship comes with the burden of knowing when to stay or leave the situation. There are relationships which are amazing, yet there are ones that are toxic. You need to be able to stand up for what is right and know when to walk away. And let me tell you, IT IS NEVER EASY. Sometimes the emotional attachment is so strong, but you know that it's time to go. You need the willpower if and when the time comes.
The reason I am writing to you is because the idea of a boyfriend is great, but look at what it comes with. I am not saying never have a boyfriend because once you find the right person you need to keep them and cherish that person forever. But in order to find "Mr. Right," you need to go through several different people. Some people are lucky and find that person right from the start; but 9/10 times that does not happen to everyone.
Everyone goes at their own speed. Some people are more ready then others. People start relationships when they're 10 years old and others start at 50. In the end it comes down to when you feel comfortable.
A relationship is not for everyone or your time has not come to encounter this journey. Being in a relationship can be great and all, but sometimes it can be one giant mess. Consider yourself cursed and blessed at the same time. Right now you're single enjoying your life and that's okay. Embrace and own the single life. Love comes with time and patience.
