Hi, honey.

I realize what you're trying to do here. For one reason or another, you seem to really, truly believe that being a feminist is a bad thing. And let me tell you; that's okay. I understand that not everyone will be in favor of equal rights. I don't quite understand why, but I understand it obviously does happen. The one thing I do not understand, however, is the idea of a 19-year-old girl, purposely advertising that she is not only open to, but in support of, the mistreatment and unequal disadvantages given to her own gender. How can a young woman, not to mention a young woman in this day and age in America, not support herself or other young women being treated the way they deserve to? That's what blows my mind. But that's okay, that's what we're here to talk about.

I understand that in some cases, these beliefs may stem from a parental unit instilling such information as 'feminism is bad' in their family life. It may not be explicitly pronounced in a way that verbally labels women's rights as unimportant, but support of other issues of mistreatment may result in showing just why women deserve to be treated like second class citizens. And again, I'm not attacking this way of thinking, everyone is absolutely entitled to their opinions and their own forms of expression when it comes to that. I'm just here to tell you that you're wrong.

I further understand that not everybody is able to do a quick google search, chasing after a basic definition of a term or phrase before making such a boldly public statement as "I am not a feminist". So here, let me break it down for you.

Feminism, as defined by Merriam-Webster dictionary, is "the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes." Likewise, according to dictionary.com, feminism is defined as "the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men." To be increasingly clear, the word 'feminism' literally translates to the support of equal rights for both men and women. Constantly defining this term for those who either don't understand it or don't care gets tiring for us supporters of the movement, so I'll spare you the patronizing spiel that so many others are probably already thinking as well.

There's not an easy way to say this. If you don't support feminism, you're wrong. No matter who you are, man, woman, trans, black, white, Asian, Latino; if you choose to support something other than equal rights, there's not really an easy way to tell you that you're extremely misguided. It hurts me to say it almost as much as it probably hurts you to hear it. Not to mention the curiosity that revolves around the idea of not supporting something so basically necessary for survival; that of equal rights for human beings.

With that being said, I understand that some reasons still stand for why one might not be in favor of supporting this movement. For right now, we are going to ignore any men or others who might not support feminism. This is specifically directed at young women who choose to openly disregard the fight for their own equal rights. Hi, honey. I hope you're doing okay, I really do. If you never had a woman in your life tell you that you are worth every cent that a man is (if not, more, in some cases), then I am truly sorry. If you grew up being told that you were less of a person next to your male counterparts and believed it, I am deeply, truly sorry. If you were led to believe for any reason at all that your value is less than gold, I am very, very sorry.

You "not being a feminist" won't stop this movement. You can be as irritatingly opposed as you want, but there are far too many supporters of equal rights in the world for the idea of it to ever vanish. If that sickens you to your stomach, I am sorry, but I am willing to bet that it does not. I'm willing to bet that you might be quite misled in the information you've been given in your lifetime so far to lead you to the conclusion that you don't support the equal rights and treatment of yourself compared to men. I'm willing to bet you might be quite afraid to admit that you support something so devilish in the environment of hostility or otherwise opposed family members or role models. And if the truth boils down to that you just really don't care that you are mistreated, and to hell with the rest of the 3.5 billion of us, then I honestly am just truly sorry you feel that way. However, I do have one thing to point out to you; we don't need you. Yes, it would be absolutely lovely if all women could band together in the time of crisis we face now as the minority gender, it would be so wonderful if there were one issue we could agree upon wholeheartedly, but I also understand that this is not a perfect world, and we will disagree on things that make no sense to disagree over. However, I wish you well in your journey, and I truly hope that you learn to figure out the basic principles of humanity.

Until then, good luck, and good riddance.