First of all it's okay. Let me tell you, I've been there, heck I'm still there. I know it's hard when everyone around you has their whole life planned out: where they're going to grad school, what job they want to get, who they're going to marry, what kind of house they want to live in, etc. I have definitely caught myself thinking "I can't even decide what to have for dinner, how can they decide who they want to spend the rest of their life with?"
So know you are not alone. But the cool thing about all of this? You're young and that means you have plenty of time to settle down. So for now, live it up! Try new things and get out and explore the world. Spend those late nights out with friends and get outside your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to make those memories because when you're faced with those big decisions that life throws at you, you can look back on these memories and make the best decision that will make you happy. Because in the end, that's what counts right?
Life is all about being happy so get out there and do what makes you smile from ear to ear. Do what you love because life is way too short to not be doing something that makes you happy. Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone's story is different and if you spend your time reading everyone else's, you'll forget to write your own.
One of my favorite teachers from high school once told me, "Go out into the world and experience it. Make your mark on the world and be proud of who you become." If we spend all of our life trying to plan out every little detail, before we know it, life will pass us by. I have been trying to live by this mantra and, although I'm a year into college and still don't have my whole life figured out, I'm okay with it. Now is the time for self-discovery. The rest will come with time. Don’t feel like your whole life depends on having everything figured out. It doesn’t.
Some of my closest friends who had a “grand plan” as soon as they graduated from high school, have already changed majors and decided they may not actually want to follow that plan. And that’s okay too. Just be patient with yourself. Surround yourself with good family, good friends, and good food. Enjoy yourself for the time being and when the time comes to make those big decisions, you’ll be ready.
You know what’s best for you so please don’t rush into making those important decisions. Trust yourself. You got this. You know way more than you think you do. Believe in yourself and remember, it’s okay to not have everything figured out.
