We've seen all the movies. We have seen how people end up with the guy or the girl of their dreams but we know that's not true. In reality, we are faced with liking someone but knowing they will never like us back or like us they way we like them. At first, it is hard to process this. We want them but they do not want us and it leaves us with more questions than answers. It is hard to think about why a girl wouldn't want someone like you but later on, we learn we need to accept it. While my life has been up and down when it comes to relationships in the past I realized I was always chasing the wrong girls and I owe it to one girl for opening my eyes.
I don't know how many guys will write an article about how a girl changed his life or why it has to be shared but keep in mind I'm not like most guys. It was my junior year of high school and I met this girl who was beautiful and seemed interested in me. After crashing and burning in previous fireworks from the year before I thought I was ready for something else but in the end I realized I wasn't. Everything started out great, We would hang out, talk to each other and she even said she would be my date to the prom. While I was just a junior everything was great and I finally felt that I could be a part of those conversations with my friends about other things besides the usual stuff. However, things changed and over the next few months we talked less and you decided to tell me the week before prom that you couldn't go. I was hurt but it was a learning experience.
Looking back at my life when I was 17 I thought it was so important that if a girl wanted to be with me I needed to do everything for them or else I would lose them. You taught me that I didn't. Don't get me wrong I love being in relationships and I love being able to talk about girls whether I am dating them or just good friends with them. You taught me that if a girl doesn't like the things you do you don't need to change for them but most importantly you taught me to move on.
When I got back to school for our senior year, you immediately found me gave me a hug and acted like nothing happened. I decided that maybe I should give you another chance until I realized I didn't need to bend over backward for you. Sometimes we need a wake-up call and sometimes we need to learn that while we can't satisfy everyone there are going to be people we can satisfy and who will love us.
I am not mad at this girl. In fact, this was four years ago and I can't be mad about something that happened almost half a decade ago. This event in my life taught me that I don't need to do everything at once to make a girl but its the little things like telling them they are beautiful and wanting to spend time with them. You opened my eyes and I can say that four years later it has helped. So, in the end, thanks for what you did while 17-year-old me may not have appreciated it, 21-year-old me does.
