I never thought I'd be writing this.

I never thought this was me. I never thought I had this "problem". "Oh I can be happy single". "I don't need to be with a guy to be content". I guess I've just been fooling myself this whole time.

We all know those girls that just cannot be alone. The girls that can't be single for more that what? Maybe two days? They don't keep steal boyfriends, they are always involved with someone new, seem to always be "talking" to someone, or even have a few different guys on their rotation. These girls go maybe a day or two before they are on to the next. They seem to be fully committed an ready to marry their next victim just as fast as they left their last. We all know those girls but I never thought I was one of them.

I knew my track record with guys wasn't the greatest and when I started to really look at it, it seemed that I really did like to jump from one to the next. Could this be me? I didn't want to be labeled as one of this girls. I knew that I had some issues when it came to guys but could this really truly be the root of it all?

Based on my experiences an observing those around me, I found that validation, the desire to be wanted, affirmation from the opposite gender, and us girls just plain not feeling good enough and not being confident in who we are, all play into why we go from guy to guy. Now, just hear me out. We want all these things and feel so poorly about who we are, so once we lose that in one we--say he leaves, we break up or whatever happens, we IMMEDIATELY need to find someone new to fill that gap. Does that make sense? Because we so desperately want and need that approval and acceptance we look for it in anyone that will give it to us, and preferably that one that will give it to us the fastest.

Now the real question is how do we change this? How do we stop this cycle and start loving who we are enough to not need to be with someone. Well that's it. We need to learn to love ourselves enough, so much in fact that we don't need anyone else to tell us. That we can love who we are enough, to feel perfectly content in our skin and be okay with that. And then when we find someone else they are there to add to our life with happiness and joy, but not to confirm who we are or fill the broken parts of our heart. I'm not saying this is easy, because God knows it's not.

But being able to love yourself just little by little, starting off small and realizing that you are worthy enough be loved by others and by yourself is where the true victory is. Be patient. It's coming.