To The Girl In Her Letters

To The Girl In Her Letters

Being in a sorority means much more than the letters you throw.

Ever since I was a little girl, I knew I wanted to be in a sorority. From binge-watching ABC Family's Greek to watching my older sister join Kappa Delta at Furman, I knew I wanted to be apart of it.

But for all the wrong reasons. I hate to admit it, but I fell in love with the idea of "Greek Life" for all the wrong reasons. I fell in love with the idea of wearing my letters around campus. I fell in love with the idea of everyone knowing which sorority I belonged to. I fell in love with the idea of throwing my letters and sharing it all over social media. I fell in love with all of these ideas of what I thought Greek Life would be.

It wasn't until I actually joined one my freshman year of college that I finally understood. Being in a sorority means much more than the letters you throw.

It means coming home to your best friends.

I remember how anxious I was walking into that Furman Hall classroom on Bid Day. As I walked in, I saw people from the same friend groups sprint towards each other. Did everyone go with their best friends? Does everyone know each other? I was definitely freaking the freak out. But then I saw one familiar face. Two. Three. They had also gone with a friend group, but this time I wasn't freaking out. I knew I wanted to be friends with them.

Within days, this friend group added me to their group text, invited me to brunch, and included me like we've been friends for forever. And, I will never forget how much that meant to me.

It means coming home to a place that lets you know just how loved you are.

From handwritten letters and trips to the mountains to deep conversations and This Is Us, these girls have made me feel so loved. It's fun to be surrounded by a group of girls with such different personalities. I have never been one to get deep and "in touch" with my feelings, but some of these girls are and won't take "I'm fine" as an answer. They really want to know how I'm doing.

They've challenged me, built me up, given me letters of encouragement, held me through anxiety attacks, celebrated with me, and continue to show me what it means to be a friend. Something that I admire about each and every one of these girls is their hearts. They seriously have some of the biggest hearts out there.

This Spring Break we all stayed in Santa Rosa Beach, Florida for the week. One night we were all talking about each other's future weddings because #whynot. One thing led to another, and before we knew it we were making home videos to each girl's future husband. Though some of it was a roast, I loved hearing what they thought of me as a friend, future wife, and future mom. And, yes. They were probably right about me meeting my future husband on The Bachelor #truelove #finalrose. But, enough about me let's get back to them.

These girls have given so much to me and have shown me what it really means to be in a sorority.

It means coming home to this. These people. These friendships. This sorority.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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10 Fun Things You Should Do With Your College Friends Before Summer

Before your friend from New York heads back home, grab her and enjoy her company while you can.



1. Go on a shopping spree for summer clothes

2. Try out a new restaurant

3. Get matching tattoos (or henna if this is too extreme)

4. Get piercings together

5. Go bowling with a group of friends

6. Go skydiving

7. Go explore a zoo

8. Go on a hiking trail

9. Plan out a weekend to meet over the summer

10. P-A-R-T-Y!!

In college, you meet people from all over the world. Though when you become best friends with those people it is hard to say goodbye when the college year ends. Hopefully, these ideas will help you say goodbye easier (it will definitely be hard but at least you have these memories to hold on too)!


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