As sad as the reality is, heartbreak is inevitable.

Sometimes the pain comes in waves, hitting harder as the reality sets in. However, most of the time the pain is sudden, and it doesn't seem like it will ever go away.

Heartbreak is the absolute worst. For some people, it feels like you are losing a loved one to death, like there was no chance to say goodbye. For others, heartbreak arises from betrayal, distrust, and even worse, violence.

When I first got my heart broken, I hated when people told me that I would feel better "in time." What did that even mean? When was "time" and why wasn't I reaching a point where I felt better sooner? I didn't want to have to wait for that time to come. I didn't know if or when it ever would. My friends who had gone through heartbreak did not seem to feel the same pain and sense of brokenness that I had felt, and therefore, I felt misunderstood even by the individuals who were closest to me. This made me feel not only unaccepted, but incredibly alone. I felt like my life was on pause, and I lost motivation for all of my passions. It didn't just feel like my world was falling apart, but it felt like I had lost all hope for my future, my confidence, and most of all, my happiness.

But that isn't forever the case. It never is.

We all think it is in the darkest of moments when we can't (as corny as it sounds) "see the light at the end of the tunnel." When you're broken, hearing the words "time will heal you" or "are you them yet?" do not typically bring positive thoughts to mind, because no, you don't feel that way yet. But I can guarantee you, from a girl that has gone through it all, you will soon enough. It takes significant strength and drive for one to stay strong through such agonizing times, but you have made it this far and I believe that you will continue to, only growing stronger by the minute.

If you hold onto faith that you'll be okay, the reality is that you will be. It is hard to find strength during difficult times, but you can and you will. Invest your time and energy into the hobbies that you enjoy, and spend time with the people who make you smile. Watch a new TV series, and start jogging. I won't deny that it is easier said than done, but the reality is that focussing on other things will distract you, and in time, they won't become just distractions anymore.

They were not worth it if they didn't stay. They were not worth it if they didn't fight for you or put you first the way they should have. They were not worth it for hurting you. Those are realities something that you will realize soon, I promise. The memories and happy times that you shared with the person are ones you still are allowed to cherish. But eventually, your heart will be ready to let go. And when it is, you won't hold it back from doing so. You will learn to create your own happiness, because your partner should not be the reason that you are. You have so much to offer, so much good to present to the world.

Focus on you and making yourself happy, and I can guarantee you that in the process, you'll make others happy too.