As a college girl, the pressure for random hookups is real. Recently I have experienced some situations with boys, not men, boys that have made me rather mad, sad, and disappointed that people in this world even think they have the right to say these things. I decided I needed to address this. Girls don't owe boys anything.
Just because someone's outfit is showing more skin does not mean they are hoping to 'get it' tonight. This has happened to far too many girls. Girls wear what they wear for themselves, not you. I don't care how 'scandalous' you think someone's outfit is, they don't owe you anything.
It's not weird if a girl doesn't want to hook-up with you. Ah yes, actual words out of a boys mouth. Long story short, a boy had asked me to come over, but he told me that boys think it's weird if girls come over and don't have sex. Hmmm, really? I think it's pretty offensive towards all the actual good guys in this world that don't think that's weird at all. I don't care if you think it's "weird", if a girl doesn't want to, she doesn't owe it to you.
I don't think hooking-up with you is a once in a lifetime experience. And you telling me that makes me realize that even more. I look at a once in a lifetime experience as traveling, climbing a mountain,or meeting my favorite celebrity. I don't look at hooking up with you as a missed opportunity, so stop telling yourself that. Stop telling us that were passing up on an opportunity that we will never get back, we don't owe it to you.
Just because I said no to sex doesn't mean I owe you anything else. If a girl doesn't want to have sex with you, don't you dare tell her that she owes you nudes or some other sexual favor. Nope. She owes you absolutely nothing.
Your manipulative tactics won't change my mind. You can tell a girl you're mad at her time and time again because of the things she doesn't want to do. You can tell her that she's pissing you off all you want, but girls deserve more respect than that. No means no, and making her feel bad about her decisions says a lot more about you than it does about her. I don't care how mad you are, she owes you nothing.
I don't need to grow up, you do. I was told that because I am a college girl that I need to grow up and start acting like it by sleeping with him. No. I don't. If you tell a girl that she needs to grow up and sleep with someone then you are the one that has growing up to do. You need to grow up, mature, and respect a girl for who they are and their decisions. Girls were not made to satisfy your every needs before her own. You need to grow up and she doesn't owe you anything.
Just because a girl is a virgin doesn't mean she should give up her virginity to you. A boy told me that because I'm a virgin he wants to have sex with me even more, and that I should want to have sex with him. He told me that we don't have to know each other, but he knows I want to lose it to him. He told me that I am stupid for wanting to wait. He told me that I was stupid for wanting it to be with someone special. My decisions are not stupid, and no girl owes their virginity to you.
Just because a girl isn't a virgin doesn't mean she will have sex with you. If a girl says no to sleeping with you, you have no right to tell her that because she has had sex before, then she should have no problem sleeping with you is just plain wrong. No she doesn't have to want to. It's not an automatic pass to hooking-up with you. Her decisions are valid, and she doesn't owe you anything.
I don't care who you are, girls don't owe you anything. You could be a super star athlete, you could be an actor, you could be the hottest guy on campus, you could be the smartest guy in the world, but that doesn't mean girls owe you anything. Each girl is so special in so many more ways than one, and to look at girls as only sexual objects is objectifying and sad. Girls are SO much more than that, and we don't owe you anything.
Hey girls, boys don't owe you anything either. I understand this article is mainly pointed towards how boys treat women, but I know there are girls out there that treat boys the same way. Regardless, no one owns anyone anything.
Just a reminder that you are all more than that. Everyone has so much to offer in this world. I need everyone to realize that. You are beautiful, strong, and you can accomplish all your dreams. Realize that you deserve more. Realize that you get one shot at this life and that every single one of your feelings are valid. Your decisions are valid. You are valid. You are a wonderful human being, and you don't owe anyone anything.
