My best friend and I are nearly inseparable. We feel the same emotions. When she's mad, I'm mad. When she's sad, I'm sad. When she's happy, I'm happy. When she's excited, I'm excited. When she's scared, I'm scared.
When she cries, I cry. So naturally, when she's hurt, I'm hurt. And that's a problem.
My best friend recently had her heart broken by someone who wasn't even good enough for her in the first place. But you can't help who you love, right? I know that getting hurt by someone is just another part of life. But watching your best friend be destroyed by someone who was supposed to care about her is one of the worst feelings. The only thing you can do is be the shoulder to cry on and the one that supplies the post-breakup ice cream.
What bothers me the most about the breakup is that two days before it happened, we were at a restaurant with him. Before we left, they kissed goodbye and exchanged "I love you's." The day the breakup happened, he told her that he knew he was going to break up with her the night they kissed goodbye.
This happened on a Friday, and he officially ended it that following Sunday. How do you do that? How do you look someone in the eyes and say "I love you" knowing that you're going to end the relationship in a few days? Maybe it's just me, but I can't comprehend that. I just don't understand. Even though this breakup caused her a lot of pain, I just want to thank him.
To the boy who hurt my best friend,
You broke my best friend's heart. I warned you about that. The very first day I met you, I said: "If you hurt my best friend, you'll have to deal with me." I guess you didn't really take that seriously. Being that you're about a foot taller than me, you probably found that comical. But I didn't. This may come as a surprise to you, but I just want to say thank you. Thank you for leaving her. Thank you for setting her free.
When you left her, she changed. And she changed for the better. The first few days were rough, but when she finally realized how bad you were for her, things started to look up. She started to realize how much you took her for granted. When she was with you, she became a shell of the girl I once knew. And when you finally left, she realized how much you belittled her.
You constantly talked down to her.
You made her feel worthless and stupid.
You made her feel incompetent.
You made her feel like no matter how hard she tried, she'd never be enough.
You constantly let her down by canceling plans, not answering the phone when she needed you, and not being the person she should've been able to count on.
You used her.
You used her for your own selfish agenda.
Since you left her, she's found someone better. She met someone who wants to spend time with her, wants to shower her with affection, and wants to treat her like she actually means something. So thank you. Thank you for slamming the door in her face, because she opened a new door and found someone better. Thank you for being an awful boyfriend. Thank you for being a selfish person.
And thank you for showing her what she DOESN'T need.
Sincerely,
Your ex-girlfriend's best friend
P.S. She never needed you anyway. She was amazing without you. And she'll continue to be amazing for the rest of her life.
