Friendship? One of the greatest gifts this world gives us. Having someone you can count on, tell all your secrets to, and share grand adventures with has got to be one of the greatest blessings we can count.
Unfortunately, however, sometimes our "best friends" aren't really our "best friends."
As awfully sad as that is, I've experienced this first hand, and I am sure you can relate as well.
Someone enters your life, you bond over your favorites bands, favorite hobbies, work interest, or maybe you just bond because you were meant to be in one another's life.
Time passes, secrets are told, adventures are taken, and you feel as if this person will be in your life, for the rest of your life. You trust them, you confide in them, and you rely on them. You would do absolutely anything for this person, but little do you know, they wouldn't do the same for you.
You continue your friendship, sharing more secrets, advice, and after so many years of friendship, well you begin to share your life with this person because it's just a sense of normality at this point.
But for whatever reason it may be, this person was never actually a friend to you, let alone a "best friend" to you.
Betrayal can be described as the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals, between organizations or between individuals and organizations.
- definition retrieved from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Betrayal
I am sure we all relate to the feeling of betrayal but what about when the person you trusted the most, the friend you would have done absolutely anything for is the one who betrays you?
You feel numb. You have a massive knot in your throat and you can't control the tears. You replay all the years of friendship and keep asking yourself "why," "why me." Your heart actually feels like it's been broken in half.
How can someone who you were friends with for so long hurt you so badly and not have a care in the world about how badly they hurt you?
This I will truthfully never understand.
But I do know how to recover from this pain.
You stand up strong. You put them in the past and the memories that you two shared together. You realize that not everyone is who they claim to be. You remind yourself that you're a boss ass bitch and you'll be just fine without this friend.
But most importantly,
Even though they were never a true friend to you, you always remain a true friend to them regardless of what happened. You are a better person than them, you wish them the best, you include them in your prayers at night, and even though at one point you felt like the pain they caused you would never subside, you use that pain as a reason to move on and become a better person than them.
Always be a good friend. Always be a true friend. And always be an honest friend.
