People tend to stick to what they know. Whether the comfort is in a particular food, a certain place or a safe group of friends, people stick to what they know. We find ourselves drawn to a certain type of person: someone like ourselves. Your "dream person" might have the same humor as you, the same love for a sport or the same life passion. But we like to find friends in people who remind us of ourselves. Why? Because familiarity is safe. Familiarity is what we like.
But imagine what and who we can discover when we step out of our comfort zone. We find opposites. People with different opinions, different interests and different passions. We find people who we could not imagine we would like, let alone become close to.
Saying "opposites attract" is a cliche phrase used when people look for a boyfriend or girlfriend. But what about a forever friend? A best friend? It might sound absurd or even a little crazy, but your opposite person is truly the best person for you
Imagine this: You grew up not far apart from each other. However, she has a southern twang while you have a more northern accent. She grew up around agriculture while you lived right outside a big city. She was in FFA while you devoted your life to sports. How could two people from the same state who lived only 40 minutes away from each other be so different, yet become so close once they met in college?
Because opposites do attract.
Just because you grew up in different settings with different passions doesn't mean that you don't have similar interests. Once you get past your experience growing up, you learn about who that person really is. You discover that she has a love for margaritas and American Horror Story, just like you.
It is truly amazing that a person you have known for less than three years can be a better friend than someone you went to school with since sixth grade.
When people comment on your friendship, they mention how they would never see you two as friends and you both agree.
But the person who is so different from you can teach you so much about things who would have never thought about. She teaches you new perspectives of happiness and how to find adventure in places you would not have thought about. A best friend who is the total opposite of you may, surprisingly, be the best for you.
Just because you have different experiences and think in different ways does not mean that being best friends is impossible. It's an opportunity. She gives you the chance to get out of your comfort zone and out of your familiar bubble.
She can change you for the better and help you see the world around you in a different light that you might have never noticed when you sat comfortably in what you knew. However, differences are good.
Opposites do attract and they attract for the better of each other.
