To All the Boys Who Will Break My Sister's Heart

To All the Boys Who Will Break My Sister's Heart

Piece of Advice: Don't Break Her Heart

To All The Boys Who Will Break My Little Sister's Heart,

Let me just start by saying that you have lost a great person from your life and, as an older sister, it is now my duty to hate you, even if I once liked you. My little sister is one of the kindest, most honest, and most thoughtful people you will ever know. When she cares about someone she invests herself in them 150%, which is something I've always been a little jealous of. She will let you in her heart so easily and give you her trust immediately. She likes to think the best of everyone, which is something that I don't do. She doesn't know that the "boy next door" isn't always the best guy. She doesn't know that she won't be able to fix everyone that comes into her life as much as she wishes she could. My sister's the type of person that walks around trying to pick up everybody else's broken pieces, just wanting to put them back together.

There was a point in your relationship when she gave you the responsibility to be there for her every step she took. She wanted your support and love. She had pretty reasonable expectations if you ask me. She just needed you to be around. She knows what it's like to not feel wanted by people and I know that her needing you wasn't just about her. It was about you too. She didn't want you to feel neglected or left out. She wanted to need you and she wanted you to need her. She gave you everything, and then you left. Now she thinks she doesn't have anyone to pick up her broken pieces. Even though you left her, she's still going to want you there. Trust me, I know how it feels to be broken and then to only want the person that made the mess in the first place.

In the moment she felt like you had completely crushed her entire world, but let me tell you something, you didn't. You don't get to have the kind of control over her life. She'll be better than fine without you. She is fine without you. And she'll realize that pretty damn quickly when she looks back and realizes how badly you treated her. She will move on and she doesn't need you to be with her every step of the way because she's better than that. She'll learn that she doesn't need a guy to tell her she's beautiful every day because one day she will look in the mirror and be able to tell that to herself.

If you think about coming back to my sister, you better be on your knees begging for her forgiveness. Don't make it seem like what you did was her fault and don't make her feel guilty if she doesn't want to take you back. It's going to take time for her to heal and it's her decision to do it with or without you. Respect her decision. If she wants you gone forever, then leave. If she wants you to stick around, then you better stay. Don't you even think about leaving again if you decide you want her back, she doesn't deserve to have her heart broken again. She doesn't deserve to have her heart broken in general, but she definitely doesn't deserve to have her heart broken more than once by the same guy. Just know you'll have to prove yourself to her (and to me). Her heart is going to want to trust you again, but her head is going to be screaming "don't do it". Just let her do what she has to do to forgive you and move on from the past so you can move forward with the future.

You get ONE second chance and that's it so don't screw it up, or you'll deal with me and trust me you don't want that. If you don't want a second chance then don't pester my sister, don't talk to her, to try and get with her. Leave her alone because she doesn't need that in her life.

Sincerely the Angry Sister Who Wants to Punch You in the Face

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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To The Boy I’ve Been Dating Since I Was 15, I Always Knew You Were My Forever

Thank you for showing me love when I thought I didn't deserve any.


Hey you,

People assumed our "fling" would only last a few short months. It's what everyone assumes when your first love happens during your sophomore year of high school. Yet here we stand, three and a half years later, more together than we've ever been. Although we've had our ups and downs, we still managed to keep our relationship going and to remember why we're together in the first place.

Many say loving isn't easy, but you make it a walk in the park.

You respect me in more ways than one, and you make me feel beautiful, inside and out. For a long time, I never noticed the beauty and strength I have within myself. I didn't see what others would point out to me, and at times I still find it hard to acknowledge my worth. However, you came into my life at a time when I felt I had no one, and you helped me to see all I have to offer. You helped me to open my mind to the thought of loving myself for who I am, and although the road is long and I'm not completely there, you've made me see how worthy of love I truly am.

Having you as my best friend, along with being my boyfriend, is the most rewarding feeling in the world.

I think the reason we rarely fight or stay angry with each other is that we truly are best friends. We could spend all of our time in deep conversation about any topic in the world and still feel engaged and ready to hear more from one another. Every single day I learn something new about you and vice versa. We can be ourselves in each other's presence and have fun doing absolutely nothing exciting. I am easily annoyed by a lot of things, but you are not one of them. Being with you for hours, even if we just watch TV the entire time, never gets repetitive or boring.

You treated me with the respect I deserved before I even realized I was worthy of it.

In many ways, I don't respect myself. Whether it be body image or letting "friends" walk all over me, I let many thoughts and people control my life. You, however, were the saving grace I needed. You've shown me how I deserve to be treated and how I should think of myself. Often I wonder how I got so lucky to end up with someone who loves me unconditionally and who values everything I have to offer. I say all the time that I don't deserve your heart, your kindness, your love, but you always remind me that I do. And I'm starting to realize that you're right; I deserve every bit of love, kindness, and respect that you have to offer. I can only hope that I award you with the same love and selflessness you give me every single day.

Three and a half years with someone may seem extremely long, but I feel as though we've been together a lifetime. It's hard to remember a time when you weren't right there beside me, and I would never want to imagine a future without you in it. There are so many more laughs, adventures, and memories to be made with you, and I only hope that I can be at least half of the person you are.

Thank you for pulling me out of the darkness. Today, tomorrow, and always.

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