Love makes you crazy. Literally.

For all those cynical people out there, that don’t believe in love, I get it. I’ve been there. I know that you were hurt. Actually you were crushed by someone and never want that to happen again. I completely understand. That person that ripped your heart out and pointed out your flaws ruined your interpretation of love and now you never want to try it out again. You get a pain in your chest like your heart is literally breaking. It’s like someone is playing the game “Operation” on your body, and you get intense shocks of pain when you think about it. Being broken sucks. You start to doubt anyone will ever be able to see the good in you again. Trust me, I’ve been there.

I was the biggest skeptic of relationships and “true” feelings. Why would someone rather have a significant other when they do whatever they want every night!? Until you actually meet someone you can see a future with, I can guarantee you’ll think I’m crazy. I used to look at friends and family in relationships and never understood why someone would spend so much time with someone else. I didn’t understand why they’d go through so much trouble to make what seems like a failing relationship, work. And I really did not understand why someone would put up with so much pain and drama just for one person. I’ve been hurt before. I’ve been walked all over. I did not think that real love existed after my past failed relationships. I saw the same thing happen to my friends and thought to myself, “Why do we do this to ourselves?” It wasn’t until a year ago that I finally understood why.

After constantly criticizing the people I cared most about for putting up with pain all for one person, I finally got a taste of why they did it. They were in love. I had never been in love the way they were. I used to question their decisions and wonder what makes the hard times worth it. And then I fell. And man, I fell hard. For me, it was one quick moment. Everything happened so fast and just like that, I understood why they acted the way they did.

When you’re in love, you do not care what anyone else thinks. All you want to do is spend time with that one person. You would rather spend a night just you two alone than having to share them with others in a social setting. It was once I actually started feeling this way, that I could understand why my friends and loved ones acted the way they did. They were in love. They didn’t care what happened as long as at the end of the day it was them and their boyfriend or girlfriend. Something I could not wrap my head around. But I understand now.

For those that want to know what a real love feels like, I’ll put it in easy to understand terms. It’s like that feeling you get when you were little and you would ride your bike around the neighborhood. That big huge hill that you had to walk your bike up was always worth it coming down. Riding with the wind blowing your hair wisps from under your helmet into your face, laughing with the kids around the block, you feel so much joy. So much that your eyes start to water, but only because it is the wind blowing so hard, except you can’t close them. You don’t want to close them actually. That is how I feel when I am with him. Like I’m riding down my favorite hill on my bike, wind blowing, adrenaline coursing through my veins. Except with him, I never have to walk my bike back up. He makes sure I always feel that joy. He carries my bike. I know that sounds so weird but it’s like all my hard times are not as hard because of him.

When you’re in love, something awful and horrible could happen, but you choose to not focus on the bad. What makes it hard, is that your friends and families only really see the bad. They don’t see the good and they definitely don’t understand the love behind it. That was my flaw. I could not see why some people acted the way they did until I could finally comprehend what it was really like to be in love.

So before you’re quick to judge someone else’s relationship, I want you to stop and think about what it’s like to be in love. To be so happy with someone it practically pours out of you. Only then will you understand why people act the way they do. Only until you have experienced something so full of passion, can you understand why love makes people do crazy (sometimes stupid) things.