The goal of everyone is to try to stay happy and positive. Here are a couple of steps to take to achieve that goal.
Focus on Positive Thoughts
If you just focus on one negative thought it ruins your entire day. Instead of focusing on all the things wrong in your life or day focus on something positive that happened even if it was small. By changing your mentality, you change your entire perspective on not only that day, but yourself as a whole. Challenge yourself to wake up everyday with a positive thought and anytime you feel something goes wrong, think back to that one thought and you will feel more empowered.
Ask Yourself Better Questions
Our brains are kind of like Google, if you ask it something it will come up with an answer that you were looking for. Meaning, positive thoughts will lead to positive answers and negative thoughts will lead to negative answers. Instead of asking "why is life so unfair" ask "what can I learn from this" or "how is this situation going to make me stronger." By changing the way you talk to yourself will help change your mentality.
Remember that the Situation is only Temporary
Most of the time we forget that the bad situations will go away. Remind yourself that everything happens for a reason, so if you're going through a rough patch then it's because you can handle it. You will come out a stronger and better person from the situation at the end. Remember every story has a ending, you just have to read the rough parts to get there.
No Self-Pity
There are some things in life that are out of your control, but you control how you react to them. By choosing to feel sorry for yourself only makes the entire situation worse. However, by taking full responsibility for your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions you can take away the negativity that you feel.
Stop Trying to Control Things that are Out of Your Control
Life throws curve balls and there's nothing anyone can do about that. Not one person can control everything that happens to them so stop trying. By trying to control everything, you are not only not living life to the fullest, but creating unnecessary stress on yourself. Which then leads to negativity because bad things still happen even when you did everything in your power to try and stop them. Just live in the moment and let what happens happen.
Let it All Out
One of the best ways to make yourself feel better is to get everything out in the open. Whether that be by telling someone or by writing it down you have to get all of the emotions and negativity out. By keeping it inside you are creating a never ending cycle. Getting everything out will lift a weight off your shoulders.
