Family can be hard to deal with sometimes, but of course you have to deal with them in your everyday life. For my family, I get along with my dad's side of the family, but not so much my mom's side. Of course, you've got to communicate with your family about where you are going, how you are feeling, the chores you have to do, and when you are feeling very anxious, but isn't that enough? When you are feeling angry, anxious, or having a lot of feelings, you need space, so you need to tell your family that, and take space, and write down your thoughts and/or feelings to discuss with family. You've got to communicate by telling your family in person, give a note directly to them, and/or put a note on a family member's bed. Here are some other tips to better communicate with your family.
Learn to listen.
Learning to listen is essential in understanding your loved ones. Take a moment to stop what you're doing and listen. Turn off the TV or radio, put down the book you're reading, listen to what your child or your spouse has to say and try to understand the feelings they are conveying.
Think first.
Family communication goes beyond the mere exchange of words. It is important to think first before saying something. You should carefully ponder the words you want to say. If you are angry, upset or need to convey emotions that may stimulate conflict or stir up negative emotions, be sure to use "I" phrases. Express your feelings by stating how you feel instead of using language that points the finger at someone else. This will help disarm the situation. Once you have expressed your feelings, give the person listening to you the chance to respond. Request that this person use "I" statements too; it will promote and maintain peaceful co-existence in your home.
Take interest.
Oftentimes, in communicating with our loved ones, we tend to take interest only in what we have to say. This should be avoided; we should always take a genuine interest in what the other has to say. Parents who take interest with what their child or their spouse has to say can cultivate healthier family relationships. Giving your undivided attention to your loved one even for a short period of time is much better than spending longer times together while distracted and not fully present.
Look after your tone.
It is equally important to look after your tone. It has been said that one should tame the tongue to avoid uttering hurtful or sinister words. In the same way kind words; and sweet and thoughtful tones are always heartfelt and can uplift the soul. Correspondingly, pay attention not only with what you say, but how you say and express yourself to your family.
Be trustworthy and maintain confidence.
Trust will always be an essential ingredient in every relationship. Accordingly, it also plays an important part in family communication. Trust your family and they will inspire trust to you. Keep your promises; always be true to them. Maintain confidences, this encourages trust and commitment between you and your family.
Always make quality time for your family.
It is necessary for every family to find and make quality family time. Family time is the perfect way to have fun together and can involve any number of activities from playing scrabble, Uno, board games or a simple game of cards. It can also be used to watch family movies together. Such light hearted moments help the family to enjoy each other's company and can pave the way to easy communication and sharing of jokes, to the exchanging of funny events of the day. Quality family time is indeed a key to good communication and in maintaining love and peaceful coexistence in the family.
Discuss issues and problems which must be discussed.
Being open to discuss issues and problems is another key to improving family communication. Issues must be discussed in a manner that is beneficial to the family. It is not advisable to use the discussion to blame each other; rather a healthy exchange of views and problem solving will help the family bond.
Family communication indeed plays a very important role in nurturing your relationship with one another. Allow your family to share their thoughts, feelings, ideas and emotions. Encourage each other to communicate freely with love, care, trust and respect. For this will improve not just family communications but also family relations.
What you can do when you do not feel your best are the following: write, draw, listen to music, watch movies, watch TV, talk to yourself, deep breathing, relaxation, use stress balls and any other technique that helps you the most.
If these things do not work, call Peer Support Talk Line at 1-855-715-8255; text them at 267-335-7785; or call Adult Mobile Crisis at 1-855-634-4673.
