We’ve all been there, nervous and maybe even a little sweaty, about to meet our significant other’s parents. It can be nerve-racking because you want to put your best foot forward, while also staying true to who you are. There can be a lot of pressure around these first meetings, especially if you’re in a serious relationship, and this could potentially be your family one day. However, I think everyone needs to know that it is fine to be a little nervous. Here are some tips to help ease you into the first meeting.
1. Dress to impress.
When meeting the family for the first time, you will want to dress appropriately. Make sure not to look overly casual or formal, but dress to accurately represent your best self.
2. Bring a hostess gift.
If their family is having you over for dinner, be sure to pick up a bottle of wine, or bouquet of flowers. This will start the visit on a high note, and will show your thoughtfulness and sincerity.
3. Don’t be afraid to express your opinions.
If controversial conversation comes up, be free to gracefully express your beliefs. By this, I don’t mean drone on for 20 minutes, or become defensive. However, you should speak what you believe, because you want them to realize you are educated and informed.
4. Take interest in them and their family.
Make sure to engage with the parents and ask questions about their work, upbringing and life experiences. They will appreciate that you care to hear more about them.
5. Be mindful of showing your affection towards your significant other.
It is good to act like you’re together, because after all, you are. However, avoid being too touchy in front of the parents. Show them that you are happily in a relationship, but are independent enough that you don’t need to be touching at all times.
6. Offer to help.
If you are in their home, offer to help with preparing the food, doing the dishes or clearing the table. Everyone could use a helping hand, and who knows, maybe doing dishes with their mom will help you bond.
7. Don’t be on your phone.
There is so much time to be on your phone, checking texts, emails and Instagram. However, now is not the time. Engage and connect, and embrace the people right in front of you.
8. Write a thank you note.
It never hurts to send a card saying thank you for the meal, and it was great to meet them.
9. Be yourself.
Your significant other is proud to be with you, and values you for exactly who you are, so chances are their parents will too. Do not let jitters get the best of you. Show up and put your best foot forward, but don’t feel like you have to pretend to be someone else.
