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Instead Of Being Lonely During College Use These 7 Tips To Make New Friends

Because we're all lonely and lost the first few weeks.


Making friends in college can be difficult and frustrating, but sometimes it's a lot easier than you think it is.

1. Join social network pages for your school.

Most schools have an accepted students page on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. Once you join it, scope out some of the profiles of the other accepted students and see if you have anything in common with them. It may seem weird at first, but you'll both be happy when you have someone to hang out with when you first get on campus.

2. Find common interests. 

This may sound sort of cut and dry, but it can sometimes be hard to find common interests with people if you don't to them. If you see someone wearing a shirt with a band you like, say something. Hear someone mention they're from the same state as you? Find out where they're from. The same goes for you though; ask people if they've seen some of the shows or movies you like. If they have, talk about it, if they haven't, tell them why they should see it.

3. Go to school events and join school clubs.

The first couple weeks of school are jammed packed with school-sanctioned events. Don't be afraid to go. If you don't want to go alone, ask your roommate and then see who you recognize from move-in or orientation. Joining school clubs that you have an interest in will expose you to a whole new group of people that have some of the same interests as you and provides you with a platform to start talking.

4. Sit next to people in class.

When you walk into class, try not to alienate yourself instantly. Try to sit close to someone else. Ask them if they did the reading or if they've taken this professor before. You may not be making a life-long friend, but having a friend in class is nice to make sure you have someone to ask for notes when you miss class.

5. Invite people places.

Buy a whiteboard for your room and write things like "Going to the movies @ 5. Who wants to come?" People are always looking for something fun to do, but a lot of people don't want to be the one to ask, so be the person that does! Also having games like Card Against Humanity in your room is nice too, because you can always have small parties in your room and meet some of the people that live on your floor.

6. Follow people on social media.

Don't be afraid to ask people for their social media when you meet them. People are always looking for some more internet clout, plus having more people on social media lets you see what's going on on campus and lets you communicate with more people.

7. Just talk to people. 

Just talk to people.

When all else fails, just walk up to people and talk to them. Ask people how their day is going. Say hi to people that live on your floor. Everyone is feeling a little awkward and alone right now, so you're not alone.

You're going to meet so many people your first couple weeks that it can seem overwhelming and like you're not really bonding with anyone, but give it some time. Some people will become close friends and others will become people that you smile at in the hallway. Just take a breath and say hi.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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5 Reasons Why Staying At College For The Summer Is The Ultimate Power Move

No school, no rules, summer vacation at the best place on Earth, also known as college.


As summer begins, it brings in the joy of no more school but for most what summer really brings is the sad realization that we have to leave our favorite place and go back to our boring home town with none of our new best friends. Although some have decided to stay at college for the summer and they will soon realize why this will be the best choice that they will be making all summer.


What's better than no school, warm weather, and most importantly no one to say, "Are you just going to sleep till 2:30 p.m. every day this summer?"

1. It's like the weekend, but every day

Do you know what weekends felt like during the school year when you didn't have anything to do? No? You never had any free weekends? Wow, I'm so sorry. Well, imagine a weekend that you didn't have to do anything. Now multiply that one weekend by seven and you get seven Saturday like days where you do not have a single care in the world.

3. No "Go cut the grass!"

For the sons, you know that annoying time every week when your dad is going to say, "Go cut the grass." There is nothing you can do to get out of it. Well, staying at school for the summer means no more nagging. You get to choose what you do now.

4. The bond of friendship

The friends you make when you stay at college for the summer are different than any other bond. Mostly because you all don't have a care in the world since it's summer in your favorite place. It's a right of passage to call someone your summer college best friends. These are best friends that words wouldn't do justice.

5. The townies

Everybody always wonders what happens to a college town when all the college kids go home. Well, the townies come back in full swing and take their town back. If you stay at your college, you get to experience what most can't even describe in words. To the one mid-40s guy trying to relive his glory days. To the old men hitting on the college girls at the local pub. To the weird towny creatures that make you shiver with fright as you drive past them. Have fun townies, you only have three months.

That dream of "I wish I could just stay here at college with all these people but have no responsibilities" is finally coming true.

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