Dear Over-thinker,

I know you, I know your kind. I know what is constantly running through your mind. I know that you are incredibly insecure. I know that you think everyone is against you. I know that you think everyone doesn’t like you. I know that you think you did terrible on that test even though you studied all week. I know that you don’t believe anyone could possibly like you, let alone love you – but the truth is, you're wrong.

Here’s the thing with overthinking – don’t. Once you start overthinking, you begin to question everything you do, everyone you meet, and even more so, your purpose. However, the odds are that someone caused you to overthink every little thing, whether it was through a bad experience or through another over-thinker’s influence.

Reason 1: That person who broke your heart.

You over-think every time a guy shows interest in you, because someone from your past made you feel like you were incapable of being loved. That person broke you – made you feel like you were insignificant, ordinary, and replaceable. Here is another truth – that person sucks. Don’t ever let anybody make you feel like less than what you are and don’t ever let a heartbreak make you feel incapable of finding happiness again. Do NOT over-think!

Reason 2: A falling out with a good friend.

What happened to you guys? You used to be so close! You came into each other’s lives so suddenly and it felt like you knew each other forever. You became inseparable in such a short amount of time– late night phone calls, sleepovers, 24 hour snap-chats, and personal heart-to-hearts. Then, in the blink of an eye, its all over. For no good reason, you two have parted your own separate ways. What did you possibly do wrong? The answer is this, nothing! In addition, here is a tip about your ex-friend – they suck.

Reason 3: A bad start to a new beginning.

It was time for the next chapter of your life – college. You couldn’t wait to meet new friends and start a whole new, independent life. College is everything you’ve ever wanted and more. You couldn’t wait to arrive at the beautiful campus of your choice. Once you finally did, the first few weeks were awkward, but okay, because everyone was in the same position. Then, suddenly, you notice the people around you finding a certain person or group of people they cling to, but you’re not worried because it is still early. Before you know it, the time has come to take your first trip back home, and you realize you have no one to talk about to your friends and family, or even worse, no one to look forward to seeing when you go back to campus. Here’s the thing about growing up, you meet all kinds of people, and most people suck. As long as you are a good person who is friendly, loyal, and helpful to everyone you meet – I promise there is nothing wrong with you.

Reason 4: Failing at something you worked hard for.

Here’s the thing with failing – it happens. You’re not perfect, nor is anyone else. Sometimes, hard work does not always pay off, but there is always a valuable lesson to learn and a positive outcome even if you fail – you worked hard for something. Never be discouraged by a negative outcome because at the end of the day, you worked for something, which says a lot about who you are.

Therefore, over-thinker, here’s my tip: you rock. Don’t be so insecure. Be confident in yourself and be true to who you are.