During the age of online dating, we're all curious to see what really goes on behind the screen. It began out of pure boredom, I simply wanted to judge men in the area off of their looks. Yes, there’s a description box but we all know that usually, it's a bunch of crap. To me, it’s a game. I’m not swiping right in hopes of finding my future husband, simply for the pure entertainment and maybe some good company. I’m completely aware that there are weird men out there, swiping right just like me. But there’s something exciting when you match with a hot 27-year-old who you typically thought you would never even have a chance with. And trust me, getting the first message from him is even more exciting.
Tinder allows users to display a maximum of six of our best pictures, and this can be the hardest part. Considering that we are being based off of what we choose to share, our image is extremely important. Next comes what I like to think of as the fun part, the bio. The bio should be the part where you quickly describe yourself, whether it’s of your likes and dislikes or just a lame joke. You can’t really judge a person’s personality off a couple of sentences, but in this case we have to. We can also include our college which is great if you’re looking to meet someone who goes to the same school as you or someone who went there. And if you feel like being judged off of more social media content, you can easily link your Instagram account to your Tinder profile. Aside from creating your personal profile, you have the option to choose which age group you're interested in and how far away. Just like that you've invited yourself into the world of online dating.
Online dating is a trial and error process. You’ll match with a grown-ass man who will message you the oddest things and you’ll match with a guy who's closer to your age and turns out to be a complete turn off. You have to be willing to put yourself out there and have an open mind. Yes, it’s completely scary and sometimes awkward, but we have to explore our options. We’re all looking for the “right one” and there may just be that chance that you meet that person because Tinder brought you two together. But then we wind up contemplating the chances of something bad happening, like in an episode of “Dateline” where the girl gets attacked by a man she met online. Yes, online dating is a risk but if you are aware of what you are getting yourself into, I see no harm.
Of course there are certain things you shouldn’t share with some random guy from the Internet. But after a straight week of exchanging messages, you'll eventually feel some sort of connection. It’s always best to be completely honest and straight forward even though you’ve never meet each other. There’s a chance that the guy will eventually ask you to meet up. And yes, your friends will all advise you not to go. In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with meeting up with someone as long as it’s in a public place. The good thing is that whether you’re looking for a serious relationship or not, you’ve met someone new. Someone who can be a potential boyfriend or someone who can help you in your future.
For some people they are lucky enough to meet genuine people on Tinder, for me my past experiences are all a joke. I laugh at the guy who was too lazy to meet me on 68th Street and then unmatched with me (his loss). I laugh at the man who thinks he has a chance with me even though he’s old enough to be my father. I laugh at the guy who’s been trying to ask me out again no matter how much I ignore him. Of course I laugh at all the men I’ve flirted with solely because of their money. And I can’t forget about all the guys I’ve lied to (I'm becoming a pro). When I think about the men I've met on Tinder, I realize that I am much happier without them. The online dating world isn't for everyone, and it's definitely not for me.
Just know that when the 51-year-old man asks for your number, he has absolutely no good intentions. It easy to swipe right on a complete creep but it’s harder to get rid of them. We all fall into the trap, we immediately look at their profile and only focus on how hot the guy looks in his pictures. But, we can't always trust these profiles with good looking men and interesting bios. It’s evident that our society is constantly evolving and meeting people online is becoming the easiest and most convenient way to meet people. Whether you’re on Tinder for the sake of having a little fun or if you’re looking for a real match, stay safe and have fun swiping.
