Those Resolutions Though...

Those Resolutions Though...

Improving yourself doesn't need to start on New Year's

I admire the people who make New Year's Resolutions every year and complete them. They make a resolution by reflecting on their lives and acknowledging how they want to improve themselves. Their goal could be improving a physical, emotional, spiritual, or a professional habit, and they take it seriously for a year. But some people fall short of their goals because they never make a plan...or they make a plan, but they never stick to it.

Do not worry. This article is not meant to shame anyone who hasn't followed through on their promises. Life is hard, and I understand how relaxation is more comfortable than transformation. You didn't even need to make a New Year's Resolution... But people usually make a New Year's Resolution to help better themselves.

You don’t need a beautiful crystal ball dropping at midnight in New York City to start changing your life. You can change your life whenever you want to.

Personally, my new year begins every February. Last year, I realized my hatred for singleness was a mistake because singleness is not a curse – it's a gift. Therefore, I decided to spend a year diving deeper into my passions, taking time to treat myself to fun adventures, and reflecting on how blessed I am. I am so glad I stuck to my goal amidst the tear-filled and “time to dance because today rocked” moments. I want you to experience the same sense of accomplishment I did, because completing my goal has colored me in iridescent joy.

Below are some practical tips to help you accomplish your New You resolution:

Take A Break

Enter into silence with an open mind and open heart. Silence is the place where we cannot run from ourselves, and that's a good thing. If you don't understand who you already are, then how will you know where you want to grow as a person? Without honest reflection in silence, I don't think you'll figure it out. Therefore, I challenge you to get some Quiet Time for at least 30 minutes.

Make Some Lists

After you take your break, I suggest making some lists. First, write down what you thought about in Quiet Time. You might want this physical reminder in the future when your goal becomes a little fuzzy in your memory.

Second, write down practical ways to accomplish your goal. Do not procrastinate on making a good plan because structure is amazing.

Please make the plan realistic. If you set too high of a bar for yourself, you might end up ditching your transformation dream.

Below are examples of goals and practical ways to accomplish them:

1. Reading the Bible More: Every morning while eating breakfast, I will read a small devotional from the Bible app I've had for years but never used consistently (insert winky face here).

2. Going to Bed On Time: I will set an alarm for 10:00PM titled "You better be in bed in 30 minutes OR ELSE" (or something similar)... and then I will actually be in bed in 30 minutes.

3. Having Good Dental Hygiene Habits (because it's important): I will floss every other day starting Monday, and I will always brush my teeth after breakfast and before bed.

The above are just examples of making a practical plan to accomplish your goal. Keep it simple, friend.

Get an Accountability Partner

We all need accountability. This Accountability Partner will be there to encourage and give you those honest "you know better than to do that" looks when we fall short of our full potential. Get a person who is kind and honest.

This trustworthy buddy of yours can also help keep the process fun. If you are learning to draw and are taking studio lessons downtown, invite your friend to participate. Make it a date.

Celebrate Yourself

Good golly, CELEBRATE YOURSELF. You are making a huge lifestyle change, and if you don't celebrate every once in a while, your New You might start to feel like a new job. Insert some life and joy into the system.

At least celebrate the 40-day anniversary of your start date. I don't know how long you want your goal to be (because it doesn't have to be a year), but doing it for at least 40 days is a wonderful idea. It's about a month. You can do it.

Honestly, we can do anything, but we let ourselves get lazy. It’s time to commit to something and stick with it. Let’s make our word mean something, because that is a really attractive quality to have. If you fail, get back up again with renewed vigor. Make sure that when the temptation to quit comes again, you will NOT succumb. Good luck, friend.

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10 Abnormally Normal Things About College

Some stuff just doesn't fly in the real world.

College is a weird, weird place. For whatever reason, the young adults who are supposed to be cultivating their minds with all of the worldly knowledge available to them, seem to get away with quite a bit using the justification "it's college." Even the best students live abnormally while on the alien planet that is a university. So, while to us college students it may just seem like another day, here are ten things that are only normal in college.

1. Straight up theft.

In the future, if I walk into my forty-something-year-old neighbor's home and see a collection of stolen signs, stuff from the local restaurant, and property from the construction site down the road, I would definitely be concerned about the character of my neighbor. However, in college, people proudly display campus signs, traffic cones, or dining hall napkin dispensers that they have impressively commandeered - it's a cheap decoration and a great conversation starter.

2. All-nighters.

Maybe with the exception of parents of little babies, very few people willingly stay up for close to 24 hours on end. In the real world, if a friend came to you and said that they literally did not sleep the previous night, it's completely logical to be worried. On the other hand, when a friend in college says that he was up all night you laugh a little, give him an understanding pat on the back, and walk with him to the coffee line.

3. Atrocious eating habits.

Sometimes you don't have time to eat. Sometimes you order pizza at 2 in the morning. Sometimes you eat three dinners. Sometimes you diet. All I can say, is thank goodness that our metabolisms are decently high at this age.

4. Breaking and entering.

In high school, you hopefully knew everyone who entered your home. After college, hopefully, that's still the case. However, when you live in the middle of thousands of bored college students, people knock at your door, walk into parties, cut through your yard, and stop by without invitation or hesitation. It keeps life fun, but still not normal.

5. Calling mom when stuff goes down.

I really doubt a time will ever come that I don't need to call my mom for guidance on how to do something. But, hopefully the frequency of those calls with go down a little bit post-graduation. Maybe after four years of doing it on my own, I'll know how to fill out government forms, cook real dinners, and get stains out. But for now, I'm going to keep calling while I still can without seeming totally pathetic.

6. Being intoxicated at weird times.

Drunk at noon on a Friday is the quintessence of an alcoholic at any time - unless it's college. Not that this is necessarily a good thing, and it certainly doesn't apply to everyone, but there aren't many other places where people would instantly assume someone is intoxicated if they're acting even a little weird. I've even seen people drink in the library....

7. The messed up dating scene.

There are people who meet the love of their life at college and live happily ever after. They are people who meet the supposed love of their life at college and never talk to them again after Sunday. There are people who use Tinder. Hormones are high, freedom is bountiful, and football players are cute - what else needs to be said?

8. A warped sense of time.

The career I'm pursuing will require me to be at work by 7 am, five days a week. I am fully aware of this. Now, will I enroll in an 8 am next semester? Absolutely not - I'm not a demon. In college, nights often start at 10 p.m., dinners are eaten at 4, and mornings can begin anywhere from 8 to 2. We don't get that whole 9-5 idea.

9. Costumes... for no apparent reason.

High schoolers have a dress code. Adults have dignity. College students have fun. Here, people will wear a corn costume to get on ESPN, a fanny pack to get into a fraternity, or a tutu to match a theme party. Is it actually a weird thing, though? No one even blinks an eye.

10. Insanely close friends.

Name another point in your life when you live with your friends, study with your friends, drive with your friends, eat with your friends, go out with your friends, and even grocery shop with your friends. I'll wait. At college, it's easy for friends to seem like family because you're with them constantly. Love it or hate it, it's weird about college.

So, enjoy this weirdness while you can - it won't last forever!


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If I Could Dream A Perfect Day, This Is What I'd Do

An inside look at what my dream day would be like.


Have you ever just had such a crappy day that you find yourself lying in bed daydreaming about what your perfect day would be like? No limitations, no pain, no frustrations. Just whatever you want.

Well, I have. Here is a look at what my perfect day would contain.

1. Teleportation


I know, I know. The first thing on my list is something that could absolutely never happen, at least in my lifetime. But hear me out.

I want to travel, but any form of transportation makes me sick. Cars, boats, planes, trains, you name it I end getting sick. So if I could teleport than I wouldn't have to deal with it. Plus I wouldn't have to pay for gas or airfare. It's a win-win.

2. My Mom

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It wouldn't be a perfect day if my mom wasn't along for the ride. Who else would I have fun with and then rub it in my brothers face later?

Just kidding, he would come too.

3. Food


It would not be a prefect day if it didn't involve food. And if it was free it would be even better.

4. London


I have been dying to go back to London, and if it was my perfect day I would definitely take a trip over the pond!

5. Meet the Stars


If it was going to be my perfect day, I would meet some celebrities. Let me scream, and jump, and totally fangirl in front of Emma Watson, Tom Hiddleston, Chris Hemsworth, Zac Efron, and Robert Downey Jr. just to name a few.

6. Meet Fictional Characters


Earlier I said no limitations, so that means I get to meet fictional characters such as the Mikaelson family, the Golden Trio, Sirius Black, the Avengers, the Joker (he wouldn't kill me), and Hannibal Lecter (he also wouldn't kill me) to name a few.

7. Disney World


Bring on the magic! I want to go to Disney World and not have to wait in any lines. That would be a perfect day.

8. Learn a New Language


If I could learn how to speak French or German in a day that would be amazing.

9. Queen Concert


If I could close out the day by traveling back in time to see a Queen concert with Freddie Mercury back on stage that would be the perfect end to the perfect day.

10. Happiness

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If everyone that I love was completely happy, with no stresses holding them down, for just one day that would definitely be a part of my perfect day.

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