Why I'm Thankful for My Long Term Friends

Why I'm Thankful for My Long Term Friends

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You know those best friends who are there no matter what? It doesn't matter how long it's been since I've talked to them, or seen them, whenever we do finally meet up it's like we were just hanging out yesterday. These are those gems of friends who you need to hold on to and I am very thankful to have quite a few!

These friends are amazing because they may not live in your same city, but they know every detail about your life still. Honestly they might remember more about your life than you do at points! You could be retelling them a story on your 3 hour long phone call and they recall the shoes you had on in your story just from your Instagram. They're amazing.

These friends also somehow integrate with all of your new friends seamlessly. You two get along so why wouldn't they? They are never jealous of your new friends, they're happy to see their social butterfly of a friend making it out there in the world.

Speaking of making it out there in the world.. these are those big obnoxious sappy post makers whenever your birthday roles around or you get a job promotion. They're your biggest supporters! Maybe it's because they've known you so long and have seen your triumphs and tribulations to get to this point. Regardless, you do the same because the world needs to know how amazing your bestie is.

Most of the world does though, especially your family. These are the friends who used to come into your house Kimmy Gibbler style and can hang out with your family even when you aren't there. Your family treats them like their own, and your friend might actually call your mom, mom too. Weird but true.

These are the friends who when you are together and out, when you get food and they forgot their wallet you don't ask them to venmo you because you've lost all track of deals. You probably both are around even between the middle school line for ice cream or the matching halloween outfits.

Speaking of looking the same, sometimes, not all the time you end up looking the same even far apart. You both have the same taste in clothes, makeup, etc. Twinning, in a weird way. Once my best friends boyfriend thought his girlfriend has posted a picture with another guy but it was actually my post with me and and a plus one. Freaky!

What are the chances? Right?

Anyways, I know the chances of me staying friends with these amazing people. 100000% will be hanging out when we're 80 years old going through taco bell.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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My Best Friend Ghosted Me, And It Hurt More Than Any Guy Doing It Ever Could

As long as she's happy with it, I'm okay with dealing with the pain that came with it.

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We have all been ghosted. We've all probably ghosted someone, too. It's inevitable with the dating culture we live in. But friendships? Yeah, I was surprised with this one, too.

According to Urban Dictionary, Ghosting is actually defined as when a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they're dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. They avoid your texts, calls, socials, and even bumping into you in person. It's an easy copy out for someone to say "I'm not interested" without being a mature, adult and having that crucial conversation.

Of course, ghosting does hurt at first, but we usually get over it. It was a sign from the universe that it wasn't meant to be and we just need to try again. Get know down and get right back up, right?

I wish I could say I had the same bounce back when my best friend of 4 years ghosted me.

I try to think back all the time of what happened around the time she disappeared on me, but nothing peculiar comes to mind. She and I were one of those friends that talked nonstop, telling one another when something big happened. Even though we lived hundreds of miles from one another, our bond was inseparable.

Or so I thought.

The funny thing is that it was a random day during the week, and mid-conversation, she stopped answering. I assumed she got busy with class or work, but after days of not hearing from her, I got a little worried.

I texted her again seeing if everything was alright. No answer.

A few days later I sent her another message apologizing for anything I may have said or did anything that might have made her upset with me. No answer.

I let it settle for a week or so before I tried contacting her again. No answer.

One more week goes by. No answer.

At this point, I decided to step away. She was still posting on socials, so at least she was okay. I couldn't understand what I may had done to cause such diffusion in our friendship.

Thanksgiving came and I made sure to send her a message to try again. I think you know the outcome of this one. No answer.

I spent nights on end laying awake, staring at my ceiling wondering what I may have done to force her away. I consoled with my therapist and family about what they thought of the situation. Was it me? Was it her? Who's to blame?

That was my problem as first. Finding something or someone to blame. I felt the need to have a reason for this pain. In past heartbreaks, I was able to sit down and decode what went wrong in the relationship and what I needed to do to be better. I tried to do that exact thing in this scenario because, yes, this felt exactly like heartbreak.

I started to tell myself that everything happens for a reason and maybe she needed to step away. I needed to put myself in her shoes and think that maybe there were other reasons behind her ghosting.

I continued to reach out for her birthday, Christmas, New Years...No answer. It hurts more every time, especially since I know she probably sees it.

No matter how bad this heartache is, she will still always be one of my best friends. I don't know what happened, but I know that she's doing okay, and that's all that matters.

So although I miss talking to her and hearing about all of her successes, failures, and everything in between, I understand that she needs to handle the situation in her own ways.

Getting ghosted from my best friend hurt more than any guy I was dating ever could, but as long as she's happy with it, I'm okay with dealing with the pain that came with it.

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