I know, it has been rough. You’ve been hurt, ripped apart and lost everything you knew to be true. Your reality turned inside-out in the blink of an eye. You loved and you lost. You lost yourself, your trust and your hope. But here you are today. One week, one month or maybe even one year later. And you’re OK, or on the path to be.
You were cheated on, lied to and heartbroken. It’s not fair or justifiable. The one person you gave everything to, let you down. The one person you never thought would hurt you, did. And although it may not feel like it right now, it was supposed to be this way. To make you stronger. To make you better. To discover more self-worth and self-respect. And really, to discover yourself.
It hurts like hell. You question everything and everyone. You have anxiety that randomly arises. And the littlest things make your heart ache.
He is not worth your continuous pain and distrust. Do not let him continue to consume you, control you and predict your future. He is not the person you thought he was. Those kind of people don't deserve a place in your life. In some twisted way, he messed up to allow you to grow. To be braver. To be better.
With all this pain, comes a lot of pain that doesn't heal overnight. And when you start to fall in love again, you’ll feel like a deer caught in the head lights. Unable to move. Afraid of what’s to come. You're terrified he will be the same as the last. You're afraid to be vulnerable and give yourself up. But don't be.
This is a reminder to anyone who’s been hurt:
Let the next guy in. Let him love you. Give him the benefit of the doubt. He is not your ex. He is not the guy that hurt you.
Do not deny an opportunity because fear is creeping up in the back of your mind. Fear is natural. And it’s understandable. But do not let it consume you. Do not let the last lowlife who hurt you, continue to consume your decisions and your happiness.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved. And you deserve to trust again. It’ll be hard and you’ll question everything from time to time.
It will be hard. And honestly, you may get hurt. But what if you don’t? What if the guy that is trying to love you and give you everything, is the one?
Don’t limit yourself. Let yourself be vulnerable and get lost in love again. With no fear and no worry.
If not him, someone will love you right. And will give you everything in the world you deserve. You will be happy and you will be able to trust again. Open up your soul and let it flood with joy and excitement.
Be brave. Be strong. And fall in love with he right person. Something fell apart for something better to fall together. Remember that.
This is one for you, JB. You are loved and you are beautiful. F the rest.
