You Got This!

You Got This!

Take a deep breath!

Going to college is scary, especially when you're “dis”abled. A million questions pop into your head. Like, who’s gonna feed me, or what if my aide doesn't show up? I'm not going to sugarcoat this, and say it's going to be easy peasy lemon squeasy. Truth is, it's hard as hell! But you got this! Take it from me, I have Cerebral palsy which means that I can't talk or walk. After I got my acceptance letter from the University of Wisconsin in Whitewater, WI, I had the same questions that you probably have. Deep down inside, I was a scared little girl. I wanted to hide behind the covers, and never come out. But I have a semester under my belt, I got this! Here's some tips that can help you through this transition, and hopefully it can reassure you that you can do this.

1. You can do this!

When you want to give up, DON’T! You can do this! Keep your head up high, you don't want that crown to fall!

2. Be friends with your aides.

They aren't robots, they're just there to help you.

3. Your aide might not come.

Calm down, take a deep breath. This definitely tests your patience. Just email or text the company and they should get someone ASAP! If they don’t, then kick some butt!

4. When you're feeling overwhelmed

I know you have a zillion things on your mind, but it's okay! You're going to be just fine. Take it like a grain of salt.

5. You procrastinated.

Calm down, it's okay.… do it now, and drink Mountain Dew!

6. You don't think that you can turn the homework on time.

Just email your professor and be honest. Professors love when you contact them because it shows “responsibilities.”

7. Be social.

Forget “don't talk to strangers.” Talk to them! It isn't high school where the “cool” kids didn't talk to you. College is a wonderful world where people are accepting.

8. Go out for clubs and organizations!

This leads you to more friends that could lead to more opportunities. AND it's looks great on your job applications!

9. Midterms and finals week aren't that scary.

Sorry, I lied. They're just horrible!


You can do this. I believe you can kick ass! It's hard, I know but it's all worth it.

11. When you get your diploma, think of Lydia! Yeah, she believed in you and she didn't even know your name!

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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Every Hardworking Woman Needs To Read These 10 Quotes

You are powerful.


Just in case you forgot, your hard work does matter. And it is going to get you far.

Here are 10 powerful quotes for all of my hard working ladies out there:

1. Kavita Ramdas 

"We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free."

2. Madonna 

"I'm tough, ambitious and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, Okay."

3. Audrey Hepburn 

"I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles."

4. Anonymous 

"I am proud of the woman I am today, because I went through one hell of a time becoming her."

5. Angelena Jolie 

"I am not a difficult woman at all. I am simply a strong woman and know my worth."

6. Judy Garland 

"Be a first-rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of someone else."

7. Anonymous 

"There's fire in her. If loved correctly she will warm your entire home. If abused she will burn it down."

8. Lady Gaga

"Some women choose to follow men, and some choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore."

9. Anonymous 

"She's badass with a good heart, soft but strong. Unapologetic and honest. She's the type of women you go to war beside, the type of woman you marry."

10. Anonymous 

"She's a strong cup of black coffee in a world that is drunk on the cheap wine of shallow love."

Keep hustling!

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