Things You Never Tell or Ask Writers

10 Things You Never Ask Or Tell A Writer

Writers can be complicated people, especially when they have writer's block, so here's a list of ten things you should never tell or ask a writer - just to be safe.


As an aspiring writer who enjoys telling stories, I know most authors write because they want to share part of themselves with other people. They're usually happy to talk about their craft and why they enjoy writing, but there's a number of things writers hear time after time that they never want to hear again.

1. “Wow, your writing is actually pretty good.”

Even if this is intended to be a compliment, it sounds like you're very surprised at the quality of their writing, and no writer wants to hear this. For one thing, it sounds like you had no confidence in their writing ability whatsoever. They'll probably think you were expecting to read complete garbage, and were pleasantly surprised by the averageness of their work instead.

2. If they let you read something, don’t critique their word choice.

That story, poem, novel, memoir, or whatever it is, is special to the writer. It's their baby. Chances are they put their whole heart and soul into that piece of literature, and unless they explicitly ask you for your thoughts, you shouldn't criticize their work, especially not their word choice. Until you actually sit down to write a poem or chapter after chapter of the same story, you have no idea how difficult it is to try to find the perfect word or sequence of words to describe what you envision in your mind.

3. Never ask them to stop writing to do something with you.

Don't get me wrong, naturally, this one has some exceptions and it's different for every writer, but as a general rule of thumb, writing time is sacred. It's incredibly difficult to get into the zone, and for those writers who wait for inspiration to strike, it takes even longer. However, once they've hit their stride, they have the ability to write page after page for hour after hour. Which means you shouldn't be interrupting them unless it's an emergency, because the second they lose focus on their work, they have to go through the whole process of zoning in again.

4. “Most writers don’t make very much money.”

Truly passionate writers aren't doing it for the money or fame; most writers are writing because they can't imagine not writing. They have a story, or a hundred, to tell and this is the best way to reach the largest audience. They don't need the reminder that their love of storytelling might not get them very far.

5. “You’ll have to get used to rejection letters.”

First of all, thanks for that vote of confidence. Second of all, you think they don't know that? If a writer is trying to get published, chances are they are already aware of the trials and tribulations they'll have to go through. J.K. Rowling's Harry Potter was rejected by 12 publishers, and that's one of the most successful book series of all time. So writers know they're going to get rejected, they don't need anyone reminding them of this or implying that their work deserves it.

6. “Isn’t writing a dying art?”

Writing actually isn't a dying art. It's true that fewer people write letters to mail to one another nowadays, but other than that writing is still very much alive. Writing is active in many aspects of everyday communication, and more so than that, as long as people are telling each other stories, writing will be around. Not to mention, even if it is a false statement, no one wants to hear that the thing they love doing most in the world may one day be obsolete.

7. “Can I be a character in your novel?”

If a writer puts someone they know in a book or bases a character on them, it's because that person has made a tremendous impact on their life. Which means if you deserve to be in the book, as either a protagonist or an antagonist, you're probably already in it.

8. "When is your book going to be finished?"

We appreciate you're anxious to read it, but it takes time to craft a masterpiece, and that's assuming the writer spends all their time working on just one idea instead of abandoning the idea several pages in and beginning work on something else. It's impossible to know exactly when they'll be finished, and the process takes that much longer when writing isn't their day job or primary focus.

9. "Oh, you like to write? That’s a fun hobby."

I can almost guarantee that everybody who has ever said they want to be a published writer, has heard this response, "Oh, you like to write then? That's a fun hobby." Or some variation of it. For these people, writing is a lifestyle and it shouldn't be dismissed as a mere hobby.

10. "Anyone can write."

First of all, no. While it is true that a great deal of the population is capable of physically writing, there's still a vast majority of those people who can't write grammatically correct or with proper spelling. Even fewer can write well. When writers say they write, they don't mean stringing sentences together. They mean creating whole worlds and characters strictly from their imagination.

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52 Instagram Captions Perfect For Your Next Beach Vacation

Perfect for those beach daze.

Summer is officially in full swing. We are all looking forward to the adventures that await us. A lot of us have been dreaming about the day when we finally get to kick our feet up and relax by the ocean. If you find yourself getting ready for a trip to the beach then read these quotes to help get your in the mood for your vacation. Whether you are looking for an Instagram caption or are just trying to settle a bad case of wanderlust, here are 52 quotes on summer:

1. "Hello summer."

2. "I'm happiest when I'm floating in the ocean."

3. "May you always have a shell in your pocket, and sand in your toes."

4. "Life is better with palm trees."

5. "Sandy toes. Sun-kissed nose."

6. "Balmy nights, pink sunsets, and salty air."

7. "Talk to the sand."

8. "Live in the sunshine. Swim in the sea. Drink the wild air." -Emerson

9. "Everyone should believe in something. I believe I should go to the beach."

10. "Spontaneity is the best kind of adventure."

11. "The ocean is calling and I must go."

12. "Here comes the sun."

13. "If it requires a bikini, my answer is yes."

14. "I'm just a beachy kinda girl."

15. "As free as the ocean..."

16. "As endless as the ocean, as timeless as the tides..."

17. "Life's a beach. Enjoy the waves."

18. "A pineapple a day keeps the worries away."

19. "Let the currents guide your heart."

20. "Happiness comes in waves."

21. "Let's go somewhere where the stars kiss the ocean."

22. "My favorite color is sunset."

23. "I lost my heart to the sea."

24. "Sun, sand, and surf."

25. "Salt in the air. Sand in my hair."

26. "Smell the sea, and feel the sky. Let your soul and spirit fly." -Van Morrison

27. "High tides and good vibes."

28. "Mermaid kisses and starfish wishes."

29. "Stop and smell the ocean."

30. "I'm happy anywhere I can see the ocean."

31. "Tropical state of mind."

32. "Forever chasing the sun."

33. "Girls just wanna have sun."

34. "Some of the best memories are made in flip flops." -Kellie Elmore

35. "Good times and tan lines."

36. "Palm trees, ocean breeze, salty air, sun-kissed hair, endless summer, take me there."

37. "The ocean is calling."

38. "Love you to the beach and back."

39. "Paradise found."

40. "Seas the day."

41. "Live in the sunshine, swim in the sea, drink the wild air..." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

42. "Eat. Beach. Sleep. Repeat."

43. "I never met a sunset I didn't like."

44. "Beach daze always."

45. "Catch me by the sea."

46. "Only worry in the world is the tide gonna reach my chair." -Zac Brown Band

47. "Stay salty."

48. "Done adulating- let's be mermaids."

49. "Find me under the palm trees."

50. "Sea you soon."

51. "Hello sunshine."

52. "Don't mind me... I'm just chasing the sun."

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Forget The Beach, Do These Things Instead

These 25 thing won't break your bank this summer.


When you think of summertime you think of the beach. Going to the beach usually involves a lot of driving and necessary spending. These 25 activities are perfect for summer and will not break your bank.

1. Take A Walk.

As simple as it sounds, take a walk. Walk around your town or neighborhood; you'll be amazed at all of the little things you normally miss whenever you're driving by.

2. Have A Picnic.

Nothing says summer like a picnic. It can be at your local park or even in your backyard; just don't forget the watermelon!

3. Roast s'mores!

Everyone loves a good s'more, and the nostalgic smell of the campfire.

4. Make your own ice cream.

Ice cream is the perfect sweet treat to cool down on the hot summer day, but it can also break your budget. Homemade ice cream is fun, delicious, and will not hurt your wallet.

Here is a sweet recipe!

5. Blow bubbles.


I mean come on, who doesn't love blowing bubbles.

6. Watch the clouds


Whenever you're having a stressful or sad day grab a blanket and head outside and watch the clouds blow by. Make a game out of how many different shapes you can identify.

7. Pick some berries.


Find a local strawberry or blueberry field that allows customers to pick their own berries, it is a lot more fun than it sounds trust me.

8. Go to a minor league baseball game.

Hot dogs, ice cream, and fun memories are all to be had at a local baseball game.

9. Go to a parade.

Your town or a neighboring town most likely has a holiday parade on Memorial Day, 4th of July, or labor day. Go to these parades, you'll get to see all of the local youth organizations, support your community, and maybe even get some candy thrown your way.

10. Watch the fireworks.

Really watch the fireworks, don't try to take pictures that will come out blurry. Live in the moment.

11. Watch the sunrise

It may involve an earlier bedtime the night before, but it will be worth it.

12. Watch the sunset.

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13. Make a slip & slide

Tarp+water+soap=endless fun

14. Paint with bubbles.

This takes blowing bubbles to a whole new level. Add your favorite colors of food coloring to your bubbles grab a piece of paper and blow onto the paper; you'll come away with a masterpiece.

15. Make a bird feeder.

Give back to mother nature by building a bird feeder.

16. Catch lightning bugs.


17. Build a fort.


Let's be real, everybody loves a good fort.

18. Tye-Dye something.

Shirt, socks, blankets, it doesn't matter what it is as long as you have fun.

19. Read.

Go to a local bookstore, run your fingers along the spines of all the books and pick the one that calls to you.

20. Color with chalk.

Unleash your inner artist on your driveway and/or sidewalk.

21. Pick up litter.

Go outside and help clean mother earth, it will not only benefit you but everybody around you as well.

22. Have an absolutely epic water gun battle.

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Grab your friend, enemy, kid, neighbor, parents, whoever you can find and challenge them to a water gun battle.

23. Go camping.

Get back into nature in your backyard, or at a free campsite.

24. Volunteer.

Many of us have extra time in the summer so volunteer your time in your community!

(Dog walking at the local animal shelter is always a great choice)

25. Find joy.

Find what makes you happy, and never stop doing it.

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