So a situation has happened, and you don’t understand why it happened, whether it is a friendship/relationship ending or a deep disappointment.

You feel a range of emotions – sad, hurt, confused – and it’s unfathomable as to why. Why would this situation be allowed to happen, whether it was allowed simply by fate or by some supreme deity or divine creator watching over us all? Why me? Why now? What did I do to deserve this? Questions to aid in comprehension are racing, yet the answers may not be as clear as you’d like.

Personally, I would ask God these questions, as well as ask for understanding for closure. I hated to question him, yet as I grew older, I eventually discovered four important thoughts. Here are four things to remember when you don’t understand.

1. He's protecting you from something worse.

Sometimes situations are allowed to happen so you have no other choice but to move on and away from it. For example, imagine being in a relationship where trust has become an issue. The relationship ends soon thereafter.

Although you may not understand why trust became an issue, you may be truly upset that the relationship ended, and may want answers for closure, but believe me, when I say you are being protected from something worse like deception. "To the wrong person, you will never have any worth. To the right person, you will mean everything."

2. He's providing something that is so much better than you could ever imagine.

Despite your disappointment, there is another opportunity that is so much better than you could ever fathom. Be patient. A door does not close without another door being opened. While you are fretting over today’s grievances and problems, you neglect the blessings that are right in front of you, similar to a child who only looks down when walking and misses everything that is happening around them.

3. You had to learn from this experience.

Situations and people in our lives are meant for blessings or lessons. The emotions you may feel and the situation itself are preparing you for your next journey. It is possible you had to endure heartbreak to motivate you to push toward more. This experience was a stepping stone.

4. It's a process to move you closer to Him.

As we go traverse through this crazy thing called life we praise during the good times and curse during the bad. Naturally straying when we may believe we no longer need His help and moving further away when times get rough is an example. Sometimes it may take a situation or deep pain to open our eyes to the need we have.

With every trial and tribulation, I have found it difficult to understand why a situation was allowed to happen. Yet attempting to consider these four statements, I no longer need to understand. It is already understood that there is a more to come. It may not ease all of your confusion but it will most definitely create a peace of mind when you are stressing over the topic. Free yourself from the stress with these things to remember when you don’t understand. Every end is a new beginning.