I'm the oldest of four children. I have five years on one of my siblings and ten years on my other two. Two brothers, one sister... lots of blessings. Out of the three, I have one little sister. To say the least she is my spitting image, has my sass and is almost as dramatic as I am. I watch her grow up and it scares me a little. I am away at school almost all the time, and it's hard for me to be there for her when she may need me. I obviously keep in touch with her as much as possible, but sometimes life takes over and I just wish I was there for the big moments to come for her...
Dear little sister,
You're only 10 right now... so you have plenty of life experience to come. I am twenty right now... and am unfortunately not there enough. So here are something I wish I could say to you for the times I am not there.
First off, remember that in a house dominated by your brothers... you still very much are the Princess you aspire to be. Don't be afraid to stand up to them, and don't be afraid to hog the TV when you're favorite Romantic Comedy is on... it's OK for it to be about you sometimes.
With that being said, it is also important to remember to not be a brat sometimes. Especially once you get into your later teens. Please remember to be nice to Mom and Dad, and remember that nothing is as life or death as it seems. Sometimes I look back on how much of a terrifying teenager I was, and I wish I had someone who could've told me what I'm telling you. Your parents, and your siblings will annoy you, and sometimes it will feel like no one understands you... but don't let those weird feelings manipulate your actions towards people you love.
Speaking of love... I hate to say it... but the first love that is eventually coming for you... is not your last love. And that is harsh, but it is important for you to realize that you have your whole life ahead of you and even though little Jimmy the dreamy football player is telling you that you're forever together... doesn't mean you are. Think of yourself, and enjoy your experiences, but don't be unrealistic.
With life choices... make good ones. You should be as ambitious as you can, and you need to work hard. College will be here before you know it, and you want to have a good work ethic. Social life is important... but so is your future. Mom isn't wrong to get down on you for bad grades... you need to put your all into it.
And with that, its okay to have fun and not be perfect all the time. Because even though this may seem shocking... you are not perfect. Nobody is. But you are allowed to mess up and try again. Have fun with your mistakes, but learn from them.
And my finally words of wisdom (Am I old enough to be considered wise...?) Don't take non-sense from anyone. Don't let anyone put you down, tear you apart and tell you what you're worth. The only person who knows what you're worth is YOU. Remember who you are, where you want to be, and what you love about yourself. Accept your flaws, and remember that people who make you feel bad about yourself are not worth your time.
Love,
Your (Annoying/Evil/Sassy) Big Sister
So these are the things that I hope my little sister, even though she is still a baby to me, will one day learn from me and be able to call me about wherever I am... and hopefully be able to apply to her own life one day. Having a little sister can make you feel very, very old... but it is one of the most inspiring things in my life, that makes me who I am.
