11 Things Men Will Never Understand

11 Things Men Will Never Understand

Being a woman is NOT easy.


I often overhear both men and women talking about why women are so cautious or what the differences are between the habits of men and women. Some men think we're crazy and can never "just relax" while women are trying to explain that things are different. Here is a list of things we face as women that men will never understand.

1. We are genuinely afraid when we're alone at night. 

Whether we're walking to our car, walking home, or even alone in our apartments... we're scared.

2. We try to plan everything in groups, because we feel like we have to. 

Thinking about going out? Going to happy hour? Going to the store? Yeah, we like to do all that in groups because we feel safer when we're all together.

3. Trying to fit your schedule into daylight hours. 

Need to grab some groceries? Want to run to the mall? We try and do all of these tasks during the day so we don't have to go out after dark.

4. Picking out the right outfit for the day.

Day of running errands? We spend so much time trying to pick out a comfortable outfit so that we won't have creepy men staring at us for being too frumpy or too revealing.

5. Wearing the right outfit for going out to bars. 

No, just because I'm wearing a top with a more revealing neckline does not mean I'm a slut and certainly does not mean I'll go home with you if you buy me a Tequila Sunrise. As women, we should be able to wear a sexy outfit out because we WANT to, to look good for ourselves. The outfit is NOT for anyone but ourselves.

6. Having sex makes me a slut, but not having sex makes me a prude. 

There is no good option for women here. If we want to have sex, then we should be able to without being worried about being labeled as a "slut". AND if we don't want to have sex with you, we are not prudes. In college, it seems as though men can sleep with whomever they want, whenever they want and they get rewarded for it. If the man is choosing to wait until marriage, he's deemed as a "saint" or an "angel." WHAT? The double standard is incredibly real.

7. Immediately being seen as weak or lesser. 

Men, could you imagine walking into a room and immediately being taken less seriously just because of your gender?

8. Having to take days off for your period. 

Every once in while we, as women, get one of those periods. The one where we can't move or talk or do anything but cry and throw up. Sometimes we physically cannot get through the day because of the pain, so we have to skip class or take a sick day at work.

9. The actual fear you have when your phone dies and you're out. 

Your phone. Not just your connection to your friends, family and social media but also your connection to the police and your Uber ride home.

10. Wanting to disappear when a creepy man is giving you THAT look. 

There is nothing more disgusting and violating than have some random man check you out when you're just trying to work or having some creep whistle at you in the grocery store.

11. Keeping the music at the "right" volume. 

Pretty much everyone listens to music when walking to work or classes or going on a run. We all know that certain volume where we can still enjoy our music but also be able to hear if someone is coming up too quickly behind us.

Just because we constantly worry about situations like this or get emotional sometimes doesn't mean that we're crazy or hormonal. We genuinely fear for our safety. ALL WE WANT IS TO FEEL SAFE AND EQUAL. Men, please try and see things from our perspective sometimes and be more conscious about what you say to women and how you treat us.

And to the men that already do this, THANK YOU. You're appreciated and your efforts don't go unnoticed.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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