11 Things Men Will Never Understand

11 Things Men Will Never Understand

Being a woman is NOT easy.


I often overhear both men and women talking about why women are so cautious or what the differences are between the habits of men and women. Some men think we're crazy and can never "just relax" while women are trying to explain that things are different. Here is a list of things we face as women that men will never understand.

1. We are genuinely afraid when we're alone at night. 

Whether we're walking to our car, walking home, or even alone in our apartments... we're scared.

2. We try to plan everything in groups, because we feel like we have to. 

Thinking about going out? Going to happy hour? Going to the store? Yeah, we like to do all that in groups because we feel safer when we're all together.

3. Trying to fit your schedule into daylight hours. 

Need to grab some groceries? Want to run to the mall? We try and do all of these tasks during the day so we don't have to go out after dark.

4. Picking out the right outfit for the day.

Day of running errands? We spend so much time trying to pick out a comfortable outfit so that we won't have creepy men staring at us for being too frumpy or too revealing.

5. Wearing the right outfit for going out to bars. 

No, just because I'm wearing a top with a more revealing neckline does not mean I'm a slut and certainly does not mean I'll go home with you if you buy me a Tequila Sunrise. As women, we should be able to wear a sexy outfit out because we WANT to, to look good for ourselves. The outfit is NOT for anyone but ourselves.

6. Having sex makes me a slut, but not having sex makes me a prude. 

There is no good option for women here. If we want to have sex, then we should be able to without being worried about being labeled as a "slut". AND if we don't want to have sex with you, we are not prudes. In college, it seems as though men can sleep with whomever they want, whenever they want and they get rewarded for it. If the man is choosing to wait until marriage, he's deemed as a "saint" or an "angel." WHAT? The double standard is incredibly real.

7. Immediately being seen as weak or lesser. 

Men, could you imagine walking into a room and immediately being taken less seriously just because of your gender?

8. Having to take days off for your period. 

Every once in while we, as women, get one of those periods. The one where we can't move or talk or do anything but cry and throw up. Sometimes we physically cannot get through the day because of the pain, so we have to skip class or take a sick day at work.

9. The actual fear you have when your phone dies and you're out. 

Your phone. Not just your connection to your friends, family and social media but also your connection to the police and your Uber ride home.

10. Wanting to disappear when a creepy man is giving you THAT look. 

There is nothing more disgusting and violating than have some random man check you out when you're just trying to work or having some creep whistle at you in the grocery store.

11. Keeping the music at the "right" volume. 

Pretty much everyone listens to music when walking to work or classes or going on a run. We all know that certain volume where we can still enjoy our music but also be able to hear if someone is coming up too quickly behind us.

Just because we constantly worry about situations like this or get emotional sometimes doesn't mean that we're crazy or hormonal. We genuinely fear for our safety. ALL WE WANT IS TO FEEL SAFE AND EQUAL. Men, please try and see things from our perspective sometimes and be more conscious about what you say to women and how you treat us.

And to the men that already do this, THANK YOU. You're appreciated and your efforts don't go unnoticed.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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