It's OK If Things Don't Always Go The Way They're Planned

It's OK If Things Don't Always Go The Way They're Planned

Because sometimes they end up even better.


I'm a huge planner. Whether it's something little like what I'm going to do this weekend, or something bigger like what job I want to have, I always plan everything out. Therefore, when things don't always go the way I planned them, it's incredibly frustrating for me.

For the longest time I knew I wanted to go to a certain college. And when I didn't get accepted for the time I wanted, I was extremely upset and conflicted. I had planned everything out. I KNEW I was going to go there and when I didn't get accepted for the fall semester like I had planned, I didn't know what to do. It was a hard decision and I ultimately decided not to go there. Instead, I chose a different school that my friends were going to and that I had also considered as my back up plan. I tried to go into my freshman year open minded, but it was extremely difficult when I knew deep down it wasn't what I had wanted.

Throughout my freshman year, I faced conflicting emotions. Should I try to make friends? Should I join organizations? It was hard, because I knew I didn't want to permanently stay there, but I didn't want to be miserable while I was there either. It wasn't that I hated where I was, it was that it just wasn't what I had wanted or had planned for.

I decided I would try to have fun while I was there and make the most of my time. I hung out with people and tried to make new friends, got involved with a few organizations, and explored the surrounding area. Eventually, I even got a job opportunity. By going to this school, I gained many experiences, friends, and opportunities I would otherwise not been able to have. If I had decided not to attend this school, I would not know some of the people I know now or be able to do a lot of the things I did.

Therefore, I learned that it's okay if things don't always go they way they're planned. It's been hard for me to understand this, but I know now for a fact that everything happens for a reason. So, don't get upset if things don't go how you expected them to. Stay open minded, because maybe, things will turn out even better.

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10 Struggles Girls Taller Than 5'7" Feel On A Spiritual Level

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

Any girl who is at least 5'8" will understand these struggles and possibly identify with them on a spiritual level.

1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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Summer = Rest?

Sometimes it feels as if we need a vacation... from our vacation.


Ah summer: Popsicles and sun burns, mixed with fresh-squeezed lemonade that local kids are pandering to make enough money for Roman candles and Black Cats. The crack of the bat can be heard among the simmering charcoal grills and Troy-bilts humming through the ever-lasting sun. School is out and children are wild. It's a paradise.

Or is it?

But after countless sports camps and tournaments, other camps, vacations, school (?) events, traveling teams, VBS, summer seems to have been sucked fun-free.

Maybe it's Hollywood and Harper Lee's fault for giving us this utopian view of what summer should look and feel like (I'm looking at you Sandlot). But how can we really rest this summer? Because everyone needs some actual rest, even adults.

First thing is do NOT pack your summer full. Say no to some things. Coaches and Families can expect too much and it's okay to say no to them. You have to. There is no time for kids to be kids anymore.

Work can take a backseat. Vacations need to be taken. Families need to reconnect.

And for all my super-scheduled people out there, please PLEASE don't schedule out your vacation. Just enjoy it.

Another bit of advice would be to put away the technology and spend some time outside. When was the last time you tried to catch lightning bugs? Or went for a swim? Or listened to birds on your front porch?

I may sound like I have an old soul, but I really feel like we have lost this connection to the outside world. Summer is all about getting a farmer's tan and getting stung once or twice. I can guarantee you that's some of the best therapy in the world.

Maybe this sounds all over the place. Maybe this sounds like me ranting. And it probably is.

But I'm telling you that this stuff matters. Don't let summer whiz by and you arrive in August more drained that you were in May. Enjoy this time with family and friends.

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