"He's the one for me." "God has someone planned out for me." "There's no one else I could have ever married." Hearing a version of these lines isn't uncommon nowadays, especially between girls. People want to know they've found the love of their life, and they like to flaunt it, too. But a majority of people haven't actually stopped to think about this concept. Because, quite frankly, it's not possible.

First off, I'll explain how it's not possible, and then I'll explain what I think instead, and, yes, it's going to be from a Christian standpoint because that is who I am. When people say their soul is meant for one person, and one person only, I see a flaw in the system. If everyone was created for one person, but we really don't know who it is, we are constantly searching, right? If we are always searching, there is a chance we may become impatient and marry the "wrong" person. Even if you don't agree with this, the divorce rates and mixed families prove that somewhere somebody married the "wrong" person so to speak. If someone married the wrong person and had kids, then somebody was just created who wasn't technically supposed to exist in the first place. Then the whole line gets screwed up from there down because the people who were supposed to be created, weren't. It's just such a mess and there are so many variables in which it could go wrong that it's just not possible. Sorry.

So if there isn't "the one" out there for me, I can marry whomever I want? Yes. Simple as that. If the world was a perfect world, and Christians didn't screw up, we would always be happy, and there would never be any tears or sadness, however, Christians are called to be loving and patient with everyone. If we were all this way, we should all be able to technically marry any Christian and make it work. But since God gave us free will when he created the world, we get the opportunity to choose a man or woman that matches our personality better. So for me, I want to marry a Christian man who is motivated to learn and do things on his own because I know that will carry over to marriage. He will want to help me run the house, and we will be able to work things out together when problems arise. However, not every Christian man has this built into him (although every Christian is called to not be lazy and to serve others before themselves.) So I get the opportunity to choose a caliber of man I desire, which could be multiple people (not at the same time of course!)Y

You'll never hear me say, "He's the one for me," but the man I choose (or don't choose) will be a great man and someone whom my soul loves. And quite frankly, that sounds better to me than the chance of marrying the wrong person.