I have always been a firm believer in signs from the universe. From good omens to bad, I took what the universe sent to me very seriously when it came to making decisions in my life. I believed that my fate, my life's path, was already paved for me and the universe would send me signs and push me in the right direction, down the right path.
Silly, I know. But for the longest time, my life was left up to where the universe brought me. If I felt the universe was telling me that this person, this place, this opportunity was not meant to be, then I simply listened and continued on with my life as it was--without that person, without that place, without that opportunity.
And a lot of what guided my decisions was time. The universe's timing was crucial in my decision-making process. If the timing wasn't right, then I simply turned the other cheek and walked away and on with my life.
But what exactly is considered "right" timing? Time is but a man-made concept, isn't it? So if time isn't something that existed before we established it, how can there be such a thing as "bad" or "wrong" timing?
Hint: there is no such thing as "bad timing." It's simply an excuse to justify your decision to walk away from something incredible out of fear. This thought occurred to me when I realized my life, although continuing down what I believed was the right path for me, was growing both increasingly boring and unhappy.
If I was to simply believe in signs and "bad timing" for the rest of my life, I would let amazing people, places, and opportunities slip through my fingers, never to be seen again.
Since this realization, I've started making decisions not based on what the universe was supposedly telling me, not based on whether or not the timing was right, but whether or not it made me happy. At the end of the day, the only force that helps us get through this complicated thing called life is our own happiness, and if you are living by others' opinions, by the universe's signs, out of fear of the unknown or some other vehicle of influence, then you aren't truly living.
So here's to telling the universe and timing to screw and to paving our own paths. Happiness isn't always a choice, but we can try to make it one.
