I met my best friends in college. I know some people have known their best friends since they were two and while I love my high school friends, my best friends are the girls I met in college. They took me in under their upperclassmen wings as a freshmen and have stuck by me through thick and thin ever since.
I feel so grateful to have met girls who literally always have my back. They are the most loving, loyal and kind people I have ever met and I cannot thank them enough for their friendship and love.
Be it school struggles, career stress, boy trouble or just a much needed night out, they’re there for me. They also have the best advice because they just all so happen to be older than me. Here are just a few pros and cons of having older best friends.
Pro: They give the best advice.
If I’m struggling with something, they’ve most likely been through it and can give me good advice on how to handle it because they’ve lived it.
Con: I sometimes feel as if I don’t help them enough.
What can I say to them that they don’t already know? How can I help them when they’re sad or heartbroken? While this has gotten better over time I still sometimes struggle to try and help them with things because I’ve simply never been through it. The best you can do is to just be there for them and love them no matter what.
Pro: I get to have adult experiences earlier.
They introduced me to a world, both professionally and recreationally, of fun and sucky adulting, and because of that I’m ahead of the game. I seem and act much older than I am and people take me more seriously for it.
Con: I sometimes miss out.
Being the youngest means I do spend a lot of time missing out on some of the more… grown up activities, with age limits and such. It’s not the worst thing in the world but it definitely can make you a bit sad at times when all your best friends are out having a blast and you’re sitting at home watching Netflix, eating ice cream and avidly keeping up with their snapchats.
Pro: I got to learn from their mistakes.
I got to be there for them for all their mistakes, heartaches and silliness and I got to learn from it so I can adapt, decide for myself and make good choices.
Con: I still do stupid crap.
I still make the same mistakes sometimes and I feel like they’re just like, in the most loving way of course, “wow what a dummy.” I just don't want to disappoint them, ever.
Pro: I have the best best friends in the world.
No matter where we go in life, we will always have each other. And them being older than me just makes us all get used to the distance sooner. They’ve now been graduated for a few months, over a year and over two years respectively and we all still keep in contact almost daily and get together whenever we possibly can. It may not be as often as it once was but it just makes the time we do get together that much sweeter. They’re my best friends and I wouldn’t change them for the world, near or far.
