Hallmark movies can be wonderful, like those Christmas in July ones. I like those, except I can do without the Hobby Lobby bagged snow. We girls like to gush over the romance and cry when the couple, not so surprisingly, falls for one another and lives happily ever after. I as well have cried over a glass of wine and Dove chocolates, but what bothers me about these movies is that we dream of something that is not real.
Now ladies, I am not saying gushy romance and finding the "One" isn't real, so take a breather. What I am saying is that, finding the "One" is an experience that punches you in the gut and says, "surprise! I just gave you something for life, now figure out how to keep it, enjoy it, and thrive with it." I want a movie that I will scream "yes, I get that! This is real!" Am I the only one?
When you find him or her, it is something that life doesn't prepare you for. You dive in without knowing what to do except go for your first instinct. Well, maybe not for all of us, some of us, like myself, find the "One" by tripping in a bikini on a cement floor by a pool at my cousin's house. My point is, be ready to be scared and giddy at the same time. To nervous sweat more than you thought possible, but still smile because you are too excited not to. To change your outfit a million times on the first date because you want him to look at you like no other person has and he will because all you did was say hello.
Finding the One turns into finding the one who will be there for you when you get accepted into the college you wanted and congratulate you because they are so happy that you are achieving what you wanted. It turns into fights about what you want to eat and bills that you can't agree over. It turns into you both apologizing because you can't stand the sight of each other not smiling. Car karaoke and late night milkshake runs. It turns into the most amazing friendship and you thank the world for giving that person to you. The "One" is the person who kisses you on the forehead in the morning when they think that you are still asleep or the one who leaves the song on in the car so that you can sing along, even if they hate it.
They remember your coffee order and your favorite flower so they can surprise you with it on a day you aren't feeling the best.It turns into laughter until three in the morning. It turns into being able to lounge on the couch eating Chinese food in your crappiest clothes and still look at each other like nothing in the world is greater. It is when their flaws are perfect imperfections to you. When you find that person, it is better than the movies because you have something so special and something that not everyone is blessed with. You have something rare, that you have to hold on to.
When you find The One. keep them and never let them go. For myself? My One? We are ready for what life throws at us and I wish you all luck on your Hallmark endeavors. Make a Hallmark movie worth dreaming about.
