The truth hurts. When someone asks for the truth, does that person understand what they are really getting into when they want it? People lie everyday, and lying is more complex than most people know. It takes a lot to lie: keeping up fake stories, secrets, and hidden underlying messages. There are different ways people tell lies.
We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, and we justify lying to ourselves to say we are helping someone else. But, what kind of lie do you tell everyday? Maybe it's your appearance; do you normally act like a casual businessman when you don't have a suit and tie on? Can this be a form of a lie: telling a friend he or she looks fine, when you consciously think otherwise. This form of lying is a facade. Facades are simply when people clearly misunderstand the situation. Misunderstanding a statement or even the truth doesn't fully mean someone is lying to you. To be considered a liar, one must have told false stories to a person a considerable amount of times. As a good liar, that person will also know how to deflect the truth. That misunderstanding can turn into deflecting some thing like how you never said you were going to pay that friend back that you owed twenty dollars.
But, facades can be destructive, because they are used to seduce others into an illusion. That deception, that seduction into a false reality, can be horrible. The longer you live by a lie, the more people tend to make that lie make sense and incorporate it in their life as the truth. Lying makes life difficult, because a person has to keep up with all their lies. Forgetting just one can set off a chain reaction because of a white lie.
The white lie assumes that the truth will cause more damage than a simple, harmless untruth. Telling a lie to not hurt someone feeling is the worst of them all. How can a person think that they are sparring someone’s feelings or preventing hurt emotions by not telling the truth? It is not possible to fully understand someone’s thought process. You can never know someone's response from hearing the truth...
Skillful deflectors know how to get out of a lie, even when they say that they don’t lie. This is incorrect, because everyone lies about something, no matter how small or big the reason for lying is. It just happens as an automatic protection mechanism. Lying is complex and dangerous; feelings are not the only thing that can get hurt from someone being deceitful...
