I’d say a lot of us have pre-conceived notions about what love is, and what it means to be in love with someone. These days, young people are falling in love all the time not even knowing if their love is real. They fall for someone too quickly only to realize later on that they’d wished they waited a bit longer. However, once we do meet that special someone that we choose to give our heart to, it can be a beautiful, life-fulfilling experience that you’ll always cherish.
When you’re young and you fall for someone, everything happens so quickly. You don’t even realize that this person will end up meaning so much to you in such a short amount of time, but they do. There’s this common type of love between young people; the lustful kind that makes you feel like no one else in the world matters to you but them. You invest everything in them, trusting that they’ll always, no matter what, be by your side. You probably even make life plans together, dreaming about the future and the life you’ll have together when your lives finally settle down. It’s a lot that you feel when you first fall in love, but it’s not always what we think it is. Not to burst your bubble, but what you’re feeling, it’s the power of love, a new love that’s consuming and feels so right all at the same time. Love is probably one of the most powerful emotions a human being can feel, and the surge of emotions that come from love, are powerful. Right away, we fall head first deeply in love with a person. We see a caring and loving side to them, a vulnerable side, and that they seem to only see you in the world and no one else, and instead of dipping our toes in the water, we just jump right in. We let ourselves feel that surge of emotions, we open up to them, and we let ourselves love.
As humans, we crave the emotion of love. Everyone wants to be loved by someone in their life, whether we admit it or not. We desire to have that connection with someone that comes from two people being in love, and so sometimes we mistake that craving we have as human beings for what we think is true love. Don’t fall in love with someone just because you’re lonely and desperately want someone to love you. Fall in love with someone because it feels right and you care very deeply for them. In other words, don’t fool yourself, it will only hurt you.
We don’t like to think this, but when you fall in love, you also fall into the possibility of getting your heart broken. Love is an emotion of attachment, and when we let ourselves enter into that realm of attachment and connection with someone, we’re setting ourselves up to get hurt. You tell them they are your everything and that they mean the world to you, you trust them with everything because you are giving your heart to them. To lose someone that you have formed that kind of attachment to can only be painful. So, I’d say that being in love, while it is a wonderful whirlwind experience that will fill your heart in so many ways, can also be the most dangerous and painful thing for yourself. You are showing someone your vulnerable side, a side you will probably never let anyone else see. You are in love, and this is the truth about it all.