When words don’t work, Actions are a must.
We’ve all been there, when you’re attempting to vocalize yourself to someone and they blatantly are not hearing what you’re saying. I’m sure there are multiple ways to handle situations like these, but does that mean that some of the ways are incorrect? I’m here to tell you that the answer to that is, No. There is no wrong way to handle a situation, in which, you just aren’t being heard. You must do what you have to do, in order to get the other person(s) to grasp what you’re saying/portraying.
This is very frustrating; you just want acknowledgement. Is that so hard to do? Is that to much to ask for? Sometimes our actions that take place in order to get someone’s attention, so that they will actually hear us, can be considered “childish”, “bitchy”, “rude” or “immature”. In all reality if the “non-listener” would just take a minute to hear you out, there would be no need to bring upon these disliked actions that carry such a negative stigma.
Typically, if I am trying to tell someone something, there is a reason. If I’m just gossiping, then I won’t get mad if someone is ignoring me or blocking me out. But when my information is important, you best believe you better listen or I will make a statement. I’m famous for making statements by causing a scene. I do not mean a minuscule scene either, and I don’t typically feel bad about it afterwards. If I do happen to start questioning my action/reaction, well, that is when I go to my best friend, who supports me and gives me encouragement (even if deep down she thinks what I did was wrong, or overacting, she won’t tell me that). She makes me feel all better about myself and the situation at hand.
Men tend to be the worse “non-listeners”, and it seems to be the men that are closest to us. If you think about it, a stranger who happens to be male is more likely to hear you out, and listen to what you’re saying, then the males who are closest to you. Do you know why this is? I tried to do some google searching, and “why men don’t listen” seemed to be a very popular saying for articles. Apparently, a lot of people are frustrated that the men in their lives just do not listen.
I did find some articles that claim to have scientific reasons as to why women are capable of “listening better” than men are, but none of the articles come out and say that there is actually a scientific reason that these men seem to never hear (not physically hearing, because they do physically hear us)—they just seem to not receive the information we are conveying. Therefore, I’ve come to the conclusion that it doesn’t matter what reason they give us as to not listening, or how mad they get by our actions/reactions to them not listening, they need to learn to listen. Plain and simple, Men need to learn to listen to the females in their lives. (especially if they would like for their lives to be a lot simpler).
Women are needy, women talk a lot, but woman also have the ability to make your life a living hell when they are not happy.
If you are interested in reading any of the articles that I came across when searching for scientific evidence, I have posted the links to those websites below.
http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=260
http://www.lifescript.com/well-being/articles/f/feeling_tuned_out_9_reasons_why_men_dont_listen.aspx
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0304394096132262
