With the many ways of finding dates and even random hookups, you’d think finding the perfect someone would be easy, but the truth is, it's incredibly hard. And for some of us, the dating world in the 21 st century doesn’t make sense. Instead of looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right on Tinder, frat parties, or bars, some of us are still hoping the right one still believes in chivalry and will sweep us off our feet at a ball or a sock hop. A lot of people know this as being an old soul, and more than likely, if you are an old soul, you have experienced some difficulty in the dating world.
1. It's difficult to meet someone.
Dating services such as Tinder, OkCupid, Happn and more have become largely successful, but for you, giving into the online dating world is a last ditch effort. Most of the people on these apps and services are just looking for hookups or don’t take the app seriously, and with the romantic mindset of an old soul, this doesn’t fly too well. Plus, what kind “how we met” story is that?
2. People don't ask people out anymore.
Whatever happened to the good ol' days, when someone would actually ask you out in person? You’re not asking anyone to get your father's approval, or to stand out your window with a boom box, but receiving a text saying “Netflix and chill” does not make anyone seem desirable. Seriously, what happened to chivalry?
3. Your dates don't get you.
Most old soul are homebodies, so
staying in and watching
"Breakfast at
Tiffany’s" is actually an ideal date. Unfortunately, though, a lot of people
your age prefer something a little more public. And many young adults haven’t seen or even have an interest in seeing your favorite older films
. Sure, you could convince your date to
stay in and try to enjoy what you find entertaining, but you may find them
asleep mid-date.
4. You don't get your dates.
Your date doesn’t remember the last time they read a book, they spend their free time at hookah bars, and they enjoy action-packed movies with no storyline. You, on the other hand, do not. Sure, the graphics in action movies are awesome, and the actors are hot, and you too may have gotten behind in your reading, but you can’t seem to understand this way of living.
5. Romance isn't what you thought it was.
Growing up on characters like Fitzwilliam Darcy, Jay Gatsby, and Rick Blaine has ruined you. You can’t seem to find these guys, or girls, anywhere. And you may be losing hope at finding that Mr. or Mrs. Right. Sure, there’s still romance out there, but maybe not what you thought you were looking for.
In a world full of Mr. Greys, you may still be looking for that Mr. Darcy. If you’re lucky you may find that perfect someone with the same interest in old movies, Jane Austen novels, relaxed dates, and old fashioned romance. But you’ll be even luckier if you find someone who isn’t. Someone who doesn’t have an old soul, but will still watch black and white films, even if they don’t like them, someone who will chose to stay in rather than go out because you want to, and someone who will surprise you with your favorite flowers, just to show you romance isn’t dead. And in the end, if you really care for them, you’ll sit through the "Blue Mountain State" movie for them, listen to their hardcore metal, and even go out in public. So fortunately, it is possible to find love, even if you are an old soul, but that doesn’t mean you’ll find your perfect match. If you care about them, it doesn’t matter that they have nothing in common with you, because in the end, you’ll balance each other out. You know what they say, opposites attract.
