I found myself the other day thinking about winter in the middle of summer. I was not looking forward to Christmas or the cold weather. Instead, I was speaking about a topic that has eluded me in the past year until recently: love and relationships. It kind of caught me off guard, but the analogy was solid.
Since I have never had the ability to play in the snow, I never made a snowman. However, I have seen the "Frosty the Snowman" series of movies enough to know that a snowman is typically made of three parts. There is the head, the body, and the base. The snowman can be decorated and customized however the makers want it to be, but every relationship has those three parts.
The first part is the part everyone sees and remembers: the head. As humans, when we try to remember people, we see their faces. The head of the snowman is the same way. It is the part everyone sees in the relationship. If the relationship looks good to others, then people think it is a great relationship. The head is only the outside, and although it is important to a relationship, it is only a small part.
The next part is another smaller part. It is not as seen as the head, but it is still a crucial part. The body of the snowman is what holds it all together. It is the part of the body that holds together the base and the head. The body represents what I personally believe is the most important part of having a relationship: the personality of the person.
Do not get me wrong. Having an incredibly attractive significant other is a wonderful thing, but what is even more wonderful is having someone who completes you as a person. The middle, or body, of the snowman is larger than the head. I see that as it means more to someone than just appearance.
When I look at someone, I can be more attracted or less attracted to them based on their personality. I am not sure how many other people have that same feeling and ideal, but I know I do. There are people out there who suffer from the ideal that having a good personality is a cop out for people not being attractive enough. To that I say: a great personality might be the most attractive thing I have seen.
The last part of the snowman is my favorite part, the largest part, and the foundation of a good relationship in my opinion. When entering a relationship, I like to think in terms of what the person does for me. The third part of the snowman for most people would be different. Mine is how much someone is willing to help me. Yes I want someone who will be attractive and someone who has a great personality, but if they are not willing to help me as much as I intend to help them, there is a strong chance I will not want to be with them. The bottom part of the snowman holds up everything and is the most crucial.
I believe that to have a successful relationship, there has to be balance, a willingness to help, and an emotional attraction. So as the summer winds down and you begin to think about your next love, remember my snowman analogy, make it your own, and good luck finding love!
