The Rise Of The Socially Awkward Teenagers

The Rise Of The Socially Awkward Teenagers

The movement that no one is talking about.

I have never been to a house party. God willing, I’ll never go to one in my life, but in some ways, I see the appeal. It’s a camaraderie I wish I was extroverted enough to have, but would never actually want. I consider myself an introvert as much as the next introvert, and that’s saying something. I hate to agree with people. It means human interaction. But, here’s the thing: no one in my high school liked an introvert. No one in the family liked an introvert. My friends weren’t introverts. I was totally and completely socially awkward, and everyone hated it. If only the new movement of socially awkward teenagers had been around when I was painfully chugging my way through High School, I might have had a higher GPA.

In 2015, Alessia Cara released the bop-to-the-top (see what I did there: never say I'm not funny) of the charts hit single, “Here.” Cara, from Canada and a teenager herself, sings of “clouds of marijuana” and not being able to “handle what’s in his cup” if you catch her drift. It’s a generational song, which means that it’s doing well, will continue to do well, flop out and then end up in a Buzzfeed list months down the line. I’m sure the list will be titled: “Thirteen Songs For The Introverts Who Don’t Care” or something click-bait like that.

It’s because a lot of teenagers these days are totally introverts and have something to relate to. I can’t even call myself an adult out loud most of the time, but it’s such a foreign thought to be accepted as socially awkward, I feel about fifty. Try as I might, I can’t not get behind the idea of young, awkward teens getting music to relate to like this. “Here” may end up in a Buzzfeed list, but it’s a highlight in an evolving idea that some teenagers don’t like partying, being in large crowds, talking to people in an annoyingly long conversation and sometimes need a break when family gatherings become too much. “Here” accurately puts into words why the idea of a party is so unappealing to certain people that some extroverts were like “Dude, I totally get it.” When they really, really didn't.

There's so much more to the idea of socially awkward than what's on the surface. The medical term is known as "social anxiety" (for the extreme cases), and it is a very debilitating thing to live with. Trust me. It flares up in the most awful times, which for me, is all the time. It rises up like a wave and then drowns me in it. Things like ordering from the drive thru and asking for extra lettuce on a sandwich can cause me so much stress and anxiety that it's just easier to not ask for it. Working a retail job was a nightmare, not only because of constant interaction, but with social anxiety there usually comes the feeling of needing to please. It's almost not worth even having a job, but even those who suffer sometimes just have to deal with it.

I'm never here for the idea of trivializing any disease, but I can only hope that this new found "awkward" movement stage can push us in the right direction. I'm holding out hope that the acceptance of young teens who are suffering at any level will allow for a more supportive environment for teens who are also dealing with depression.

There’s a positive waiting within the movement: a time where socially awkward kids won’t be generalized. Alessia Cara has made her stake in the movement without being artificial about it, while sticking the idea into those who need it: You’re not different, but you’re still cool.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants

Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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Life Is By No Means A Race So Go At Your Own Pace And You Will Make It

You'll get to where you're supposed to go regardless of how fast others get to their places.

The last couple of weeks I have come across a problem. Not necessarily a problem that can be defined, but a problem that is definitely present. I'm constantly looking at others' social media accounts and seeing all that they've accomplished just to put down my phone and feel defeated myself.

Seeing everyone else's accomplishments such as summer internships, job interviews, and even just posting picture and tweet after tweet of their "perfect" life has started to make me feel a little bad about not having those things myself. While I know can't avoid social media altogether, especially since I plan on being a social media coordinator in the future, but I have been using it a little less lately to get out of my head.

I've taken some time to focus on just living my life. I'm 20 years old, there's no need to constantly worry about what the future holds. I know that if I work hard I'll get to where I need to be. I'll land the internship I'm supposed to, I'll graduate whether it's on time or not. I'll get a job after graduation. I will live my own little perfect life. I'm always worried that my friends or family members will completely pass me in the left lane in this "life race."

It's taken me some years to realize it, but life is not a race. If it was we'd all be a lot more exhausted then we already are. Years from now I don't want to remember myself in college freaking out about my future but want to remember all of the great times I had with the people I love.

It doesn't matter what age you graduate or when you get into graduate school. It doesn't matter when you get engaged or married. It doesn't matter if all your friends are having kids one day and you aren't at that exact same time.

We all have our own timelines and it's crucial that we understand that. I'm not saying that nobody should ever be sad that something they really want isn't happening for them, but to remember that things do happen when they're supposed to. I sometimes think that if you stress too much about a certain event that it doesn't happen.

So remember that your life is just that, your own. It's not your sister's or brother's or best friend's or cousin's or whoever's. It's YOURS. You'll figure out what you need to. You'll make money. You'll have a career, but most importantly you'll end up how and where you should, hopefully, happy happy happy.

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