First and foremost, the spontaneity of it all. I'd like to think of myself as a bit of a control freak when it comes to certain areas of my life, such as school or work. And for the most part, my aggressive list making has proven quite efficient. The problem comes into play when I can't seem to come up with the proper bullet points in how to strike a conversation with that cute guy at the party. Hence, reasons why you're single #1 .
Reason #2
REJECTION, people! It is probably the second most feared word in the dictionary, next to " alimony " and one of the main reasons we are scared to take the plunge in the first place. The fear of putting yourself out there and not having the same feelings reciprocated back is scary, even for the most macho of men and bravest of women. "You'll never know if you don't try" " The worst they can say is, No" And while this might be true, I would rather a "Yes" and am perfectly fine continuing the "what if" scenarios in my head.
It's kinda like when we were back in grade school on valentines day and you stayed up all night working on your "surprised face" for when bae would personally hand you a valentine and have to come to the realization that you were meant to be, but come Valentines day, your "surprised face" was no match for the face you would make when bae didn't make you a card.
One of the greatest misconceptions around relationships is that if you are not in one, there's something wrong with you. And for the longest time, I can admit the same thought has crossed my mind as well. But the crazy thing about it is that if this is how we look at relationships, there is something wrong; the fact that we are thinking like this in the first place !
If we were to "break it down", the meaning of a relationship (according to Webster dictionary) is the joining of two or more persons - depending how you choose to get down - and the state in which they are connected. So if we were being technical, you've been in a relationship for quite awhile and should consider marriage.
All jokes aside, entering relationships is something that is more complex than what we take it to be. You are put in a position to be completely vulnerable to another person and that is something that should never be rushed or given as much attention as possible. And before you think of blaming yourself for something as silly as being single; choose yourself first ! Be your own bae! Focus that same energy on loving yourself. The same love you find yourself wanting to give away is the same kind of love that you should be surrounding yourself on a daily basis.
Yes, relationships are nice, but the most important commitment is the one you have with yourself.
*Keep the vibes*
