Perhaps you've never been in a real relationship, or maybe you've been waiting on that promotion from a job you've devoted your time and energy into (for what seems like forever). Whatever it is, you're waiting on something. You're wondering why you don't have it, and you're comparing yourself to others that do. Perhaps you feel you haven't really "lived" because you haven't made it to this elusive, seemingly amazing point (a point that in your life that has always made sense for you to be at). It's possible that this belief has convinced you that you're wasting time until you get to that point, and it's compelling you to decline long-term commitments. Ultimately, this "not having" is likely to make you feel the deep sting of inferiority.
But here's the deal: there's no "golden point of success" where your ''dull life'' ends and your ''real life'' begins. Your life: your messy, gorgeous, colorful life has already started. Real life is now. In the not-so-great details and in the sweet ones. The chipped coffee cups and the messy bed linens. In the moments of bellyaching, tear-in-the-eyes laughter and emotional conversation. In mistakes and triumphs and the non-Instagrammable moments. It's all worth something, and it's all beautiful.
So, maybe there's something important to you that hasn't yet happened, but that doesn't invalidate any part of your story that has already been written. It doesn't take away from who you are, or what you've been able to do within your lifetime, and it certainly isn't an indicator of your self-worth.
Now, I know what you're thinking. "But what if this thing that I want seems like the next natural step? What if it's what I'm supposed to be doing?"
The truth is that these things tend to take time. You may still have some miles left in your journey until you get to where you want to be. Maybe you'll find that destiny has other plans, and you'll find that you won't get there, and that's okay. It doesn't mean you won't get somewhere. Learn to be okay with any outcome, because maybe you'll find something else that's tailored for you and your unique story. Maybe you'll find your truth somewhere along the unfolding of time.
From person to person, our milestones (and the timing of those milestones) are going to look different, but they're all worthy and meaningful. Learn to love the details of your own story. Even if takes time to get from point A to point B to point C, understand that the things that happen in between those points are filled with opportunities to love and appreciate life for what it is. Practice gratitude, invest in your dreams and be aware of the fact that every moment in your life serves you.
