Girls in our society are too often settling for men, or more accurately boys, who are not right for them, or not right for them in the moment. It is a trending issue--it is the basis from which derived the term “fuckboys” and girls accepting being booty calls, or accepting their identity as the “3am girl.” Though these are extremes of such relationships, the relationships are real, the complains are real, the unhappiness is real. Well, the problems always start somewhere.
No more. I have known these boys. I have been this girl. We must put an end to putting up with anything that makes us unhappy. Granted, do whatever you want with your life, but if you are unhappy, you must put a stop to it. This is not a man-hating article, but simply one to put into perspective that there is life on the other side of bad relationships: labeled and labelles. You must swallow your pride and put your wants aside. The need, in this case, is to maintain love and respect for yourself. No boy, or even man, is worth sacrificing that. Alas, I have compiled the songs, of varying genres, that prove that walking away from these situations, these “relationships” will teach the lessons that sticking around never could.
Rarely do we hear songs entitled: she stayed with me through all my mistakes and I grew so much from that. Don't be the girl that fixed the guy. In fact, don't STRIVE to be a girl who changes a guy at all. Be the girl that comes along and falls in love, or in “like” for exactly who he is, and he the same for you. Here's your harmonious, melodic, proof-- if something isn't right, walk away from the situation all together. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and maybe you'll be the cause of the next hit heartbreak single.
- Dreaming With A Broken Heart- John Mayer
- Let Her Go- Passenger
- She's Out Of My Life - Michael Jackson
- It Will Rain- Bruno Mars
- When I Was Your Man- Bruno Mars
- All I Have (Baby Don’t Go)- JLo ft. LL Cool J
- Sorry- Justin Bieber
- Another You- Armin van Buuren fr. Mr. Probz
- What's Left Of Me- Nick Lachey
- Lonely- Akon
- Just To See You Smile- Tim McGraw
- She Wouldn't Be Gone- Blake Shelton
- Over- Blake Shelton
- Not That Simple- Mike Posner
- Sometime Around Midnight- The Airborne Toxic Event
- End Of The Road- Boys II Men
- Every Breath You Take- The Police
- A Drop In The Ocean- Ron Pope
- Thunder- Boys Like Girls
- Breakeven- The Script
- The Man Who Can't Be Moved- The Script
- Nothing Better- The Postal Service
Now not all men, nor all relationships, are bad: we know this. And some men acknowledge that it would be unbearable if they lost you WHILE THEY STILL HAVE YOU. So, I also gave us the standard. When a man starts singing to you like John Legend sings about Chrissy Teigen, hang on to him-- forever.
Like I'm Gonna Lose You- John Legend
But finally, know that even if your don't find your John Legend, or you do walk away from the situation, you're going to be just fine. While I researched for this article, I came across the song “Fix You” by Coldplay, assuming that it was about a girl. But really, this song could be about your damn self. Fix yourself first, love yourself first, take care of yourself first. Everything else will fall into place. But, whatever you do, choose happy.
