Hi! You know me. We've either met in person a few times or we've only spoken via phone call/Skype session. But it is becoming very apparent to me that you are not going anywhere. It's almost been a year. This is something I'm pretty sure of at this point. However, I've never gotten the stereotypical, "If you break her heart I'll break your face," talk. That's not okay with me and I've decided that it's time to write it down and publish it online. That way, everyone can see it and it will be here forever. Remember that.
My best friend is, without a doubt, one of the most important people in my life. I've known her since elementary school. We go to different colleges. We sometimes don't talk for weeks at a time. But she's my person. But now, you're becoming one of her people. I'm not bitter about it, I expected it to happen but I do need to make sure that you are treating her the way she deserves to be treated.
Get excited about the simple things.
Listen to that band that she used to love. Let her continuously send you lyrics or music videos. Watch her favorite sport with her, even if she doesn't support the same team you do. If there's a key change in a song, get pumped. Those are the best. Make sure before you think she is crazy, you understand why she likes those things that much. Then, even if you still do think she's crazy, keep it to yourself.
Understand how to manage her indecision.
She will rarely tell you exactly what she wants -- especially when it comes to food. If it's not the place to go, it's what she should get to eat. She's been this way for as long as I can remember. I can't really help you out for if she doesn't know what to eat, but as far as where, I got your back. If you're going on 20 minutes and still don't have a place to go, start giving options. Sometimes the scope is too wide, you have to dial it back a little bit.
Listen to her.
She isn't a robot. She is going to get angry and sad and loopy. She has a lot of emotions and it's not good for her to keep them bottled up like she does so make sure she knows you're there. If she can't talk to you about these things, who can she talk to? (I mean, me, obviously but I'm not the one dating her.) You don't always have to give advice. You don't need to tell a story about yourself or to switch the topics. You just need to listen.
Do NOT break her heart.
This one is the most important rule for me. I've been there for the heartbreaks. I've seen first hand how much it hurts her. I don't ever want to see that again. I hope that my best friend never has to go through something like that again because she doesn't deserve it. She's is kind and funny and beautiful and everyone should cherish that.
That's my one wish for her. I wish that no matter what happens for the rest of our lives no one makes her feel like she is anything less than absolutely amazing.
If I find out that you have done that, I will find you. I'm not going to hurt you or anything because I like to think I'm a pacifist, but I will yell at you - for a very long time.
That's it. Nice chatting with you! Let's get dinner sometime soon!
