Let me start off by saying that you are awesome. Caring about the ones you love is not a sign of weakness. It is not something to be ashamed of. If you are someone who cares “too much,” do not look at it as a flaw. I know that it sometimes can feel that way, but I promise you, it really isn’t. When it feels like you care so much more for everyone in your life than they care about you, it can be hard, but at the end of the day, you get to tell yourself that you cared as much as you possibly could.
Take it from someone who knows first hand what it is like to always feel like you care more about everyone in your life than they could ever care about you. It is hard, but it just means that you have a heart so big it could brighten up any room you walk into. There may be some days where you wish you could be a little less caring and just worry about yourself, but that just isn’t how you were wired. There is something in you that makes you want to always put others ahead of yourself and do everything you can to be the best friend, child, sibling, girlfriend, boyfriend, etc. you can be.
You may reach a point in your life when you are tired of always giving and never receiving anything in return. Just remember, you may not realize how thankful those people in your life really are. The thing is, they are so used to you being such a caring person, that they probably don’t even realize how hard it is on your sometimes. You would do anything for your people and they probably know that. This is not to say they are going to take advantage of you and I really hope that they do not, but they acknowledge all that it is that you do for them. If you care “too much,” then chances are, you love being there for the people in your life. You love seeing them succeed and helping them get to that point.
I know it can be hard being the person who cares “too much” and some people may even tell you that you are weak because you do not know how to do things for yourself. What those people do not realize is that you are choosing to put yourself behind everyone else because that is how much the people in your life mean to you. Putting yourself last is actually one of the strongest and most selfless things you could possibly do. Seeing your friends and family happy is probably what makes you the happiest. One day, someone amazing will acknowledge all that you do for the ones that you love and will start to love you for that. That is when you will start to receive the “too much” caring in return.
This is a note to you people who care “too much” to let you all know that you caring is one of the most amazing qualities anyone could ask for. If everyone in this world cared “too much,” it would be such a better place. Sometimes you may get kicked down and wish that your heart was just a tad bit smaller, but I promise, it will all work out in your favor in the end.
From one “over-carer” to the next,
Becky
