We are at the age now where most of us have a relationship or two under our belts.
We have hated the next girl, we have been the next girl. But regardless there always is a next girl. The one after you, that he seems to treat so much better in every way. He’s kinder, more respectful, and everything he did wrong with you seems to not be an issue for them. It hurts. I mean it’s really just a knife in the heart. You worked so hard. You put in so much effort yet you two never seemed to get it right, and now he wants to be perfect? Now, after all this time you wasted? And what were you, just a trial run? The practice round? What about her makes him want to be better than he was with you?
God. God says that to have a healthy relationship you must first be a healthy person. Sometimes this doesn't come easily. Sometimes you need to do this on your own. Sometimes relationships are meant to show us what we don't want, along with what we do.
I know that might not be as comforting as you might need it to be. I know you will still catch yourself comparing everything about yourself to her, and asking what was wrong with you, and that's the problem. We have to stop comparing ourselves. We have to stop putting the next girl down because at the end of the day there will always be a next girl. Sometimes it’s us ourselves, and it isn’t her fault that you guys didn’t work out. It isn’t her fault that she was the next to come along. She’s doing what you would’ve done. She’s doing what you did when you were the next girl. She’s picking up the pieces that you left, and that is okay because some day you will find yourself doing the same thing for someone. Some day you are going to be someones next girl, but she isn’t replacing you.
Everything he learned with you he is now putting to use with her. Which is something you will be grateful for when the roles are reversed and someone comes along who truly knows how to treat you well. When you love someone you want them to be happy. So be happy for him. Be thankful for the next girl for loving him the way he deserves to be loved, the way you've always wanted him to be loved. When you are the next girl be thankful that someone taught him to love you the way you deserve to be loved, and the way you've always wanted to be loved. Be thankful that these past relationships weren't failures, but lessons, and no matter what be thankful for God for putting these people in our lives for a reason: For teaching us how to love, and be loved, and for molding us into the people we want to be for the ones we end up with, so that one day, when the right one comes along, there will be no next girl.
