This Is What The Modern 'Dating' Scene Is Really Like
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This Is What The Modern 'Dating' Scene Is Really Like

This issue is mainly found among college students and young adults, but it's something the world as a whole, no matter the age, has a problem with.

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This Is What The Modern 'Dating' Scene Is Really Like
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When was the last time you were, in person, asked out on a date? Was it fun or awkward? What happened during that date? The world as a whole has seen major changes in how people approach relationships and connections with others.

When my grandparents were younger, they did the dating scene much different than our modern day person does. Something that people in their time used was called "courting." According to GotQuestions.com, "Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage. Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times. In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner."

Many people do not do this today. In our society, courting is close to "hanging out" and getting to know someone before claiming the title of boyfriend and girlfriend.

Something that is also very prominent in the modern day world is "hookup culture." It can be defined as a few things. Some people define it as kissing strangers and not having further relations with that person or it can mean having sex with someone and having no further relations with someone. Back in the days of my grandparents' childhood, which was the 1940s, 1950s, 1960s and so on up to now, this issue has never been so prevalent in society.

This issue is mainly found among college students and young adults, but it's something the world as a whole, no matter the age, has a problem with.

People today seem to have issues with commitment and are worried about rejection. It is very upsetting to be turned down by someone you may have romantic or intimate feelings towards. A recent (absolutely amazing) documentary that was recently released is called "The Dating Project." It was centered around looking deep into how modern relationships work and what the new dating scene works. The primary focus was to get personal information about how people perceive relationships and what they think about today's culture. Many of those who were interviewed really did want something meaningful with another human but were afraid of approaching the situation.

From personal experiences and having seen the documentary, I firmly believe that our society does need to learn more about what it means to date and go about relationships without being afraid.

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