The Men’s Movement Deserves More Recognition and Respect

The Men’s Movement Deserves More Recognition and Respect

Equality needs to extend beyond women's rights, and address the concerns of men.
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The idea of men’s rights is often considered taboo to talk about. It is this idea that a conversation about men’s social concerns would have the power to negate the accomplishments that feminists throughout history have made. The buzzword “equality” has limitations, where the conversation stops right when you start to mention the voice of men. So, what is this movement all about?

These issues are the things that largely go unexamined. These are the things that cannot be heard above the humming of every other right’s movement. We are talking about child custody cases, criminal sentencing, domestic violence, workplace fatalities, men’s reproductive rights, educational inequality, and men’s health issues. I myself was very misinformed about men’s social concerns and grievances and so, like many of us do, defaulted to whatever was easiest to believe. I was looking at this from a woman’s perspective believing that this movement was only a backlash to the momentum of the Women’s Rights Movement- and in some ways, this is true. The men’s rights movement has definitely taken some ideas from the Women’s Movement and tried telling them from their perspective.

Unfortunately, these men are falling right into the trap of being labeled “misogynistic”. But, I encourage you to challenge that view. Let’s take domestic violence for example. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 in 3 women have been the victim of physical violence by an intimate partner. This isn’t a shocking statistic for many, yet what they might not know is that 1 in 4 men will also be the victim of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. I also challenge this statistic by asking if this truly accounts for all men that have been victims. We claim we want to help men feel comfortable opening up and yet, when they do, men face severe backlash by people saying that they are “misogynistic” for having the audacity to address men’s domestic violence issues. Is it truly misogynistic to look at the statistics and be concerned not only for women but understand the need to extend that to men?

In fact, men could argue that in some cases women are actually the ones with the upper hand. Men are often seen as the brawn of the relationship, and thus perceived as the perpetrator no matter what the situation may be. Men also run into similar discrimination when dealing with child custody cases. When imagining who is the primary caregiver, who feeds and bathes them, and who is the child most likely to be more bonded to, the answers like to favor women. Does this mean that women are not the primary caregivers sometimes who may be more closely bonded to the child? No, it means the default option are mothers even when this may go against the direct interest of the child.

I am not here to be the advocate for the men’s rights movement, as I am just a baby to the research that I need to do. I am just here to point out the problem with claiming equality, and to claim the goal is to reach equality between men and women but ignore the ways in which men are facing inequality in the social system themselves.

The men fighting for equality are doing so much more than fighting for themselves. They are addressing things that may affect the men in your life, and that someday may affect you.

Cover Image Credit: The Red Pill- Cassie Jaye

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.
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Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.

Why?

Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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For The Love Of Pitbulls

Shining light on the stereotypes and biases against pitbulls

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When I first heard the rumor that PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) was joining the fight against pitbulls I was infuriated. How could they aide with those wishing to outlaw the biggest snuggle babies in the world? They used to be nicknamed "Nanny dogs" for crying out loud. Was PETA not the ones who were supposed to fight for animals' rights?

I knew there had to be some sort of mistake. In an effort to seek clarity regarding PETA'S stance on pitbulls I researched their website where I found the following statement:

"Some pit bull fanciers out there seem to think that PETA is "against" pit bulls because we don't oppose breed-specific measures to address what is obviously a breed-specific crisis. Au contraire. If someone proposed a ban on breeding Labrador retrievers or Chihuahuas or poodles (you get the picture – any dog), we'd be for those too. That's because we don't think any dogs should be brought into the world as long as millions are dying for lack of homes in animal shelters and on the streets every year."

PETA goes on to indicate that pitbulls are only singled out because they are involved in "so many attacks on humans and other dogs" which any pitbull owner will tell you is a lie. According to the American Temperament Testing Society's (ATTS) 2017 report, pitbulls have an 86.4% pass rate which is significantly greater than other breeds such as golden retrievers, Labrador retrievers, cocker spaniels, Shih Tzus, and even Yorkshire terriers. These kinds of slanderous statements by PETA make me question their reliability entirely. If they could miss such a vital piece of research regarding pitbulls, who knows what else is being forgotten. While it is evident by the 3.3 million dogs currently living in shelters across the United States that we should all be participating in the #AdoptDontShop movement, banning the breeding of dogs of any kind would not be a plausible solution. Much like a band-aid, legislation that banned breeding of dogs would encourage more shelters dogs to be adopted rather than euthanized but would have some serious potential risks. One such risk would be the endangerment of breeds going extinct. Typically, shelter dogs are mixed breeds which if they were left to be the only dogs available could wipe out thousands of pure breeds. Just like the animals of the wild, pure breed dog species should also be protected. Some may believe that having a shortage of specific breeds, like the pitbull, for example, would not be so bad. But I am here to explain why such an event would be so heartbreakingly tragic. I and thousands of others have taken to social media to raise awareness of the true facts about owning a pitbull. For example, videos can now be found all over the internet about the true danger of pitbulls and Instagram accounts such as the one for my pitbull Luca that open up the day-to-day lives of those that own these types of dogs. This act of transparency will hopefully open the eyes and hearts of those seeking to ban pitbulls and the breeding of them.

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