The Memory Jar

The Memory Jar

Keep the big experiences close and the smaller ones closer

Ever since I was a little girl, I have obtained many amazing memories from both my friends and my loved ones. Some of these memories were positive, giving me the courage to pursue my dreams and become the woman I am today........and others....not so positive. Although it may seems that one bad memory can destroy even the slightest bit of happiness, those negative memories are there to teach us. They are there to teach us that there is always time to be who we are and to achieve greatness. Throughout my college experience, I have realized that savoring the good experiences in life are what really help me get through even the toughest of days. Recently, I have found myself doing something that I have not done for a very long time...............looking through my memory jar.

For my high school graduation party, I wanted to do something fun and unique to remember all of the great times that I have had with all of my friends and family. I discovered the idea of a memory jar one day while I was scrolling through my Pinterest page. When I first read about the idea, I knew that that was what I wanted at my party. From then on, I worked hard to construct the memory jar and make sure that I had an adequate amount of paper for all of my guests to write at least one thing. The rules of the memory jar were simple: to write your favorite memory with me and put it in the jar so that I could remember all of the good times that I have had with my friends and family so far. This idea turned into a major success. After my graduation party, I ended up with over 50 different memories to read while I was at college.

Being that my college classes are decently stressful (and anxiety is a real thing), I have found myself looking at my jar of memories quite often. Being able to read about all of the good experiences that I have had with everyone brings me so much joy, especially during times of deep anxiety. There are memories that make me laugh, cry tears of joy, and everything in between. There was one particular memory though that really seemed to peak my interest. It was a small memory, but nonetheless, it was significant. It was a memory written by my Dad, however, it wasn't a memory written by was written by me. The "memory" that my Dad had placed in the jar was an old Valentine's Day card that I had hand-made for my Dad when I was in kindergarten. Half of it was even written in Spanish because I had just learned how to say "I love you" in my class. As I carefully glanced at the little Valentine's Day card, I couldn't help but get an overwhelming feeling of happiness. I started to tear up, just as I had done when I left for college.......I then started to cry. It was at this moment that I realized just how great of a life I really have and how blessed I am to be able to have the opportunities that I have today.

As you can see, it's the little things in life, those small memories, that can have the greatest impact on your life. You need to live out your life to the fullest and not be worried about what the future may bring. Without those good times, those good memories, in your life to fall back on and remember, you will find yourself lost and in a dark place. I thoroughly recommend starting a memory jar. It has helped me understand the significance of true friendship and how the little things in life can play a great role in who you will become.

"Take care of your memories. For you cannot relive them"
-Bob Dylan

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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The Power Of Journaling

Slowing down in a fast pace world.


In a world where everything is moving so fast pace, I have found comfort in taking small moments to reflect on the blurring images around me. I have always loved to journal, but recently I have found a system that works very well for me.

One habit that I have newly formed is creating a section in my journal that I like to call "Get Out of My Head." Life moves very fast and sometimes my thoughts can't keep up. This causes stress, anxiety, sadness and even the feeling of loneliness. I have created this section in my journal to be a safe place where I can just scribble down whatever is taking over my head, but there is a trick.

Like I stated previously, I have always loved to journal, but I never found ultimate comfort in it because I would go back and read what I wanted to remove from my mind. This was causing me to reexperience what I didn't want to. I highly suggest having a place in your journal that is essentially a flame for all th4e thoughts you want to rid of.

On the contrary, have a section in your journal where you love to look. I try and fill this section with happy thoughts, quotes, verses, and gratitude. This makes journaling and reading your entries something to look forward to, rather than not.

In conclusion, journaling is unique for everyone and it takes some time to figure out exactly the right way. But once you discover the safe place that journaling can be, it can change your life forever.

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