I meet new people all the time. But there is one man in particular I’m waiting for God to put in my life. My husband/soulmate, my best friend, the man who will father my children.

I dream about what that man will be like and how much he will love me and our family. Except sometimes I find myself questioning if he even exists.

Most women have their dream guy in mind and could probably make a list of all the qualities they want him to possess. When I think about dating right now I think of all the selfish things women expect from men. For example, height. I want him to be taller than me so when we hug or dance I can rest my head on his chest. Plus, I feel like he can protect me because he is bigger than me. I’m ashamed to admit that there are really things like this I look for in men, except that I don’t feel as bad when I think about all of the selfish things men expect from women.

Even though I have selfish desires when looking for my someday husband, I do have serious qualities I pray this man will possess.

I pray he has a love for God stronger than my own. A wife needs a leader in the household who will help his family grow with God. (And yes, I believe the man should be the leader of the household.) I pray that my husband will not only love his family but will help us grow closer to God as a family and as individuals.

I pray he has patience. Anyone who knows me knows that I have a sarcastic tongue and am the most impatient person ever. He will more than likely need patience and a sense of humor to put up with me. He will also need patience to put up with all of my worrying and stressing because it will happen.

Then I pray for many, many other things. Some of the other things may fall under the selfish category as well. A few such as him having a good job to support our family or a love for travel because I plan to travel a lot.

When it comes down to it I think I could fall in love with any man who is willing to put up with me and loves God more than he loves me. I pray God sends him in His time, and that I don’t go too crazy waiting on that time. I know God will send him when He has my life and his life on track to meet each other. But as my mom always tells me, do not pray for patience, pray for it to happen when it is His timing.