Hey girl hey,
I know it's nerve wrecking to spend two weeks waiting to find out who your person will be for the rest of your college life and hopefully beyond. Just so you know, we’re just as stressed. Let’s be real we’re losing it over here in the land of the Bigs.
We all have our eyes on that one girl who we just want to put in our pockets and take with us everywhere we go. Some of us can’t even decide because let’s face it, this year each pledge class is full of perfect potential littles.
When you were making your list, you were one of two girls: the girl who only had one big in mind and will die if she doesn’t get her number one. Or the girl who put three of her most worshiped girl crushes and is internally freaking out because she believes no one will put her on their list. To girl number two, stop your worrying because there are girls fighting over you. You just have no idea.
This, however, is for my sisterfriend who may or may not want to run to her car or all the way home after she realizes she didn’t get her first choice. Listen, it’s going to be tough. You will be a little disappointed, but it won’t be the end of the world.
Remember when they told you to “Trust the system”? it’s your best if you do. The Family tree fairy knew exactly what she was doing when she paired the Bigs and Littles. No one was intentionally betrayed or randomly placed. So, say you didn’t get the love of your life as your big sister? It’s fine. What you will get is an amazing woman who will shower you with gifts, guide you through this new sisterhood and life itself. Your big, if you allow her, will be there for every first date, formal, mixer, bad test, job interview and opportunity to get panda points.
The perfect human who you wanted will still be a part of your life. She’s not leaving chapter, school, or the face of this earth. Maybe she’ll get a little who you also adore and the four of ya’ll can squad up. She can still be your sun and moon, but don’t you dare disregard your big.
If you don’t get your first choice, still love on her like your life depends on it. You don’t know how hard she may have had to fight for you. You have no clue why it was her who you were paired with, maybe you have more in common than you know. She may be just what you need in a mentor and best friend. You must give it a try.
By all means, if you feel that you just can not handle being torn away from the girl who you thought completed your one true pair, take a moment and try not to be that girl.
