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The Life Lessons I've Learned

Through the good and the bad, life lessons are what got me here today.

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The Life Lessons I've Learned
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I've learned a lot in my 23 years. Good lessons and bad lessons. But what you're about to read, is about how I learned that living a life for YOU is more important than living a life for anyone else.

I met a guy. And for those of you who know me personally wouldn’t say they were shocked. You see, I’ve always been enamored by the thought of love but haven’t ever actually been in it. Now that I’m 23, I’ve moved past the college way of thinking where I talked to a guy for a while and then got annoyed with him or never even liked him from the beginning. I know now that I should really be focused on what I want in life.

What I want in life is easy. I want to be successful in my business, and want to share that success someone that I truly care about. It’s as simple as that. Right? Wrong. You see, I’m not looking for just anyone to share it with.

Before I tell my story you should know that I have a checklist for anyone I meet. Kind of anal right? I know exactly what I want and that is:

  • A man who's taller than me (I’m 5’9”).
  • A man who’s got a great sense of humor.
  • A man who is genuine and cares about me.
  • A man who loves sports.
  • A man who loves his family and is close with them.
  • A man with goals, and has a good worth ethic.

Now to my story. I've been through a lot and I have some trust issues when it comes to guys and I feel like I am much better being friends with them. Thats why the majority of my friends are guys. Its not a bad thing, especially since they have your back in most situations.

At my new job I work with all guys. And I LOVE it. No pressure at all, plus we are all able to be goofballs. One day, a coworker and friend of mine told me about his bumble life. I had only ever heard of tinder and tinder is only used for one thing and one thing only....so I downloaded bumble and from the first day, I could tell that the guys on there were more real than the tinder crop.

My friend told me he'd find me a guy and started swiping. Left if he disapproved, right if he did. And thats when the guy showed up as a match. Someone I never thought I'd be attracted to simply because of his profession: A High School AP Physics Teacher.

While I was NOT into science, like, ever. But thats kind of what intrigued me. Not to mention he was tall (6'6"), dark (black hair and beard) and handsome. Not to mention funny, well educated, smart, a hard worker, a family man, and has a genuine heart.

So when he asked me out I couldn't say no. The date was incredible. One date turned into two. Two into three and so on and so forth.

What I've done in the past is assumed that each guy was "the one". Tried to ignore their flaws and went with the fact that there could not be anyone better. Then when the guy ended it, or I got sick of them I was super upset (and by super user I mean for about 2 hours--I get over things very quickly).

With this guy, I went about it all differently, I went about it thinking about the present and not the future. I went about it not worrying about my engaged friends, married friends or pregnant friends. I went about this for no one else but myself. Since I am concentrating on myself these days, I am trying to do whats best for me. And oddly enough I think I found it.

Granted its SUPER early, and now that I'm probably jinxing it I'm okay with that because you know why?

I'm not worried about stereotypes, or what others think of me. I want to go about everything for me and I can't believe how happy I am with this decision.

I've learned a lot in the past couple of years. The most important thing I've learned was that if you're not happy with yourself, that nothing else in life will go your way. Being happy with yourself and living a happy life...thats what it's all about. Having someone to share it with, that just the icing on the cake.

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